Post # 1
88 more days and I’m supposed to be marrying my best friend. He has drove me nuts, Broke my heart, Put the biggest smile on my face, made me cry, and made me the happiest girl on earth. I’m to the point that I’m not even excited about our wedding anymore. We have been through a lot in the past two years and I think we both knew we would be husband and wife the moment we met. The only thing is My FI is Gemini and shows it very very well. His moody, mind shifting drives me nuts. Its like being with two diff men at times. He has pretty much killed my soul when it comes to this wedding stuff. He will be super excited one day and scared to death of it the next. He told me he was nerves about all of the people. He doesn’t really like being around a lot of people but is such a people person and everyone just gravitates to him. He is so much fun and puts on a good show yet deep down in side hates a big show. We have spent so much money on this wedding and I was so excited but It seems like wedding planning makes him cringe alot of the time. I haven’t planned or talked about our wedding in over a month. I’m just sooooo over it! I know I want to marry him but I’m so hurt over all this mind shifting I could scream!
Note: This man is indecisive about everything!! Not just our wedding. Every single little nit pickin thing that life has to bring.
Post # 3
@CodijoC: First of all being a Gemini or any other astrological sign has anything to do with his personality and behavior. It sounds more like he is passive aggressive and more likely bi-polar. Shifting mood swings is a huge sign of the disorder. Also sometimes men get scared. Considering the first paragraph where you and he have had ups and downs it could be that he is getting cold feet. Also consider that alot of men arent always involved in the planning.
If he is indecisive now its not likely gonna change, You can either live with it or make a chooice and tell him that he needs figure out what he wants and do what needs to be done.
I would be more concerned about the mood swings.
Just my advice…good luck
Post # 4
If your wedding is in September, would it be possible to agree to leave wedding stuff for a month or so and just concentrate on your lives and each other without that stuff just to give yourselves a break? I am sure wedding planning gets to all of us. As long as he is treating you right, maybe all you need to do is sit him down and speak to him about how he is feeling and both be honest. It sounds like you’re feeling some of this too. Try to look at the bigger picture: it’s a happy but stressful time, but after that you can go back to focusing on your lives together with the stress of an impending wedding. Either way I am sure you will both enjoy your wedding day when everything comes together and all the stress is forgotten about.