- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
So, my FI is back in the hospital, again. He is a retired Navy vet – when he was underway on a submarine, he developed shizophrenia. (SCARY!!!!) For 5 years, he was at his parents house, on a very dull, boring routine (Sleep to 3, eat dinner, go to the bar, come home). We started dating in 2010, got engaged July 2011, and he moved in with me September 2011. The wedding is in June. Since he has been here, I have taken him to the hospital twice for medicine issues – one time, they gave him some extra Rx, and sent him home. Right before Christmas, he was admitted for a week to stabilize his medications.
These past few days, I noticed that he hasn’t been “right”. He had a shot on Thursday last week (standard every two week shot of Risperidal), but usually he perks right up afterwards. This time, he’s been crying alot, and just tense. Yesterday, we were at Hobby Lobby and he started crying. So, today I asked him to go to the hospital while I was at work. I just got a call from the VA – he’s been admitted again.
Yes, this is good because he’ll hopefully get his meds stabilized again, but it sucks because he’s not here, and because it makes me feel like I’m not going to be a good wife. If I can’t keep him from getting depressed now, then how is the future going to be? This just sucks.
I knew about the schizophrenia when we first started dating, so no surprises there. But, when he was living with his parents and we were dating, I never saw this side of him. He was happy, and strong, and manly. Now, he’ll cry at nothing, and his meds keep changing, and I don’t know how not to stress him out.