FI is being a Groomzilla to Groomsman, How do I help?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It doesn’t sound like you have a groomzilla – it sounds like he has regular groomsmen.  Guys don’t care about weddings, and they aren’t going to plan in advance like girls will.   

The groomsman was probably just surprised that there would be a brunch the next day.  Maybe he wanted to make other plans for the long holiday weekend.  

Post # 5
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think he sounds like a groomzilla at all. He sounds like a regular guy with no experience with weddings, who somehow has the misguided notion that men behave the same way about weddings as women do. Most don’t.

Your wedding is still months away. I would try to help him rrelax a bit. His men will come through for him for a bachelor party. If a month out from the wedding nothing has been announced, I would contact his best man or one of the groomsmen (whoever you are closest to) and see what’s on the horizon.

Post # 6
1834 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Meant2Bee:  poor guy! I can definitely see how it would be upsetting to have your friends be a bit dismissive. But they’re guys, most aren’t going to get excited over wedding stuff… Your fiance has to think big picture here. Is this friend otherwise a really good friend who just doesn’t like the idea that he can’t sleep in/ sleep off his hangover in peace the next day after a late night? Usually the post-wedding Sunday brunches are optional, and as long as his friend is there for him the rest of the time, I’d try to let it go.

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

DH felt the EXACT same way about half of his half of the bridal party!

His BFF/BM couldn’t be bothered to plan him a bachelor party. And that wasn’t the end–MONTHS after the wedding went by, he cornered my DH and said that my DH was a HORRIBLE friend because he made a joke the night before the wedding (they all went out drinking) being the bachelor party! And that he felt that DH treated him like crap and “picked other friends over him”

It was seriously effing bizarre. Anyway, does he have any friends that are excited about the wedding? Maybe they can be ushers/do the GMs job, since the GMs suck?

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