- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hello dear bees,
I haven’t been here in awhile. We’ve been busy looking for an apartment and buying all the necessary things. We finally found a place, and we’re finally moving in together June 3rd (Monday).
We’ve been planning this move for weeks, and the whole thing was planned to a tee. Originally our plan was to get the keys on June 1st (Saturday), clean up the whole place spick and spam. That evening, we would prime the apartment for paint. And on Sunday we planned on painting it and just leaving it to dry for 24 hours, without doing anything else in the apartment. On Monday, we would move all of our stuff into a clean, freshly painted apartment.
Like I said, this was planned for weeks. We both agreed that this day-by-day plan works best for us because of our schedules. Plus, I already enlisted the help of my brother and my best friend (who willingly volunteered to help with the painting on Sunday).
Now, all of a sudden, my wonderful FI msgs me “Let’s paint some other day, not Sunday”. When I call him back and ask why, he said he talked to his mom, and now he doesn’t want to paint on Sunday…
His mom is not exactly super, duper religious, but she does frown upon doing “heavy housework” on Sunday, ALTHOUGH I’ve seen her on several occasions doing gardening, lifting or turning over soil, doing laundry, or moving new furniture into her home on Sundays. If that’s not moderate to heavy housework, I don’t know what it. But apparently, when she heard that we had planned to paint our new apartment on Sunday, she was appalled. So, my FI changed all of our plans. He said we can paint another day, once our furniture is all in.
I suppose we can. But nevertheless, I am so angry. We would be losing a full day of work, just because his mom thinks we shouldn’t paint on Sunday. I have a full time job, and the weekend is the only time when I can actually do housework. And yes, even though I would LOVE to have Sundays all to myself, relax and not do anything, with my lifestyle and schedule it is simply impossible!
And to paint with all of our furniture and boxes all over the place is just a recipe for disaster and chaos! Oh boy. I am so angry. I am angry particularly because this is not the first time this has happened. I can recall a dozen of prior occasions when our plans changed simply because his mom had a certain opinion….
Look, my FI is a hopeless mamma’s boy. I knew this when I accepted his proposal, and now I’m slowly beginning to reap the results…. I also respect his mom, but I think my FI could have made an exception in this case. First of all, we’ve been planning this for weeks, he never mentioned that he felt uneasy about doing this on Sunday. Second, we were offered help from people to help us that day. And third, I simply think that losing a whole Sunday is just irrational. The reason why we made this plan in the beginning is because it made the most logical sense!!!
What the heck!!
Whatever, screw it…I just hope for one thing and one thing only. I hope that once we move in together, he’ll grow a pair, and be able to think for himself, without having his mom influence his every thought.