(Closed) FI is depressed =[

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
Member
835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

well, tell him you two are suppose to be there for each other… and you want him to share everything, thats why your marrying him. so u ceratinly dont mind. as far as the whole…death thing, my mom does the same thing with her parents and siblings that have died…at first i was baffled by why she would do this sort of, anniversary type thinking, then years later i started validating her feelings and sending her flowers and talking about it for a few min then moving on. i ,like you, am desensitized to death, but weird thing is my mom has been through the same amount of deaths as i have, and she is just, not. at all, she freaks out each and everytime we regather for a funeral. which, my mind just dont get…but ive def figure out that somewhat validating her feelings helps (certainly dont make a big deal or he and u might dwell too much on it)…just brief reflection and validation, then moving on….. ya know? 

Post # 4
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I feel you!  Mine is depressed to, but for different reasons, he’s been looking for a job for months, and the wedding is only 4 months out.  Its so hard on both of us emotionally, more so him.  I just do my best to be supportive and let him know that I am.  I know he’s appreciative of it, and tells me, that its just the job situation, not me…and I do know that.  

When your FI doesn’t tell you what’s up because he ‘doesn’t want to stress you out’ probably makes you MORE stressed, I know it does me, and it takes a lot to stress me out.  Just stay strong for him, I know its tough, especially when there is family death involved.  best of luck, and stay strong!

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