Post # 1
Well it is not a month before the wedding anymore, but that is when he started all this. I can’t be on birth control because of a blood cloting issue so we stick to condoms. However, the last few weeks FI is not wanting to use them and says he doesn’t care anymore. I am trying to explain to him that I don’t want to explain an 8lb premie to my parents in 8 months. I am glad he is so excited for children but I better not be pregnant. Anyone else have this issue???
Post # 3
@Miss2Mrs_Beerlover: Do you think anyone really cares about “premature” babies any more?
Do you live together? Do your parents know? Do you think they don’t know you are having sex?
If you really don’t want to be pregnant, you can insist that he wear a condom.
Post # 4
@julies1949: Some people do still care. I sure don’t, but some people do.
Insist that he wear a condom, or no sex for him!
Post # 5
given that it is only a month before the wedding, if you really want kids i agree with him that it doesn’t matter and i doubt anyone will be counting. (besides, it’s not like you have to explain your sex life to your parents!!
if you were to get pregnant RIGHT NOW it wouldn’t make much of a difference since they count how far along you are since your last period and not since the actual date you conceived
BUT of course you have the right to tell him “no condom no sex”. be firm!
Post # 6
I mainly wouldn’t want to be pregnant or have any thought that I might be right before the wedding because I want to enjoy all the cheers with family/friends with actual booze in my glass not to mention the honeymoon drinks and goofiness. Plus if you’re having sparkling grape juice poured into your toasting glass when everyone else gets a little champagne, I wouldn’t want the headache of guests focusing on “could she be?” rather than the main event of the day!
Post # 7
i would tell him to consider your feelings on the matter….you want your child to know you BOTH wanted him or her to be concieved….its a mutual thing he needs to respect your want to wait….its not very considerate of him to not care and not wanting to wear condoms….you’ll be carrying the baby through trimesters NOT HIM!!!! you go girl!