Post # 1
I just need to rant a little. FI is driving me CRAZY. We were talking about bachlor/bachlorette parties. I gave him only one rule…well two, but the second isn’t so much a rule as an understood.
1. It cannont be the night before the wedding
2. No sleeping with someone other than me
Other than that, I DON’T CARE. He can have as many strippers as he wants, get as drunk as he wants. Have fun, whatever. I know his friends, and they’ve even said they want a hangover-esque party.
Could you see why the night before the wedding would be a problem?
I’d like my groom to be at the wedding. And not throwing up all day from being hungover.
He can’t do it the weekend before either. We’ll be out of town at my sister’s graduation. So Monday night? Tuesday night? Wednesday night?
He refuses. He says it has to be a weekend and that two weeks before the wedding is lame and he won’t do it. It has to be the night before or he can’t come to my sister’s graduation!
Am I being unreasonable? I really don’t think I am!
I just needed to vent. He’s the only one around right now and I just don’t want to yell at him over something so dumb.
Post # 3
@thisorderistall: You are completely NOT being unreasonable. I’d be ticked off too.
Post # 4
@sillysillybee: Thanks. Good to know I’m not just being crazy here!
Post # 5
@thisorderistall: That’s ridiculous, but I could totally see myself having this kind of situation, haha. He should do it during the week or two weekends before. What’s wrong with during the week? Isn’t being hungover one day at work better than being hungover at your wedding?
Congrats for putting your foot down on this one! I hope he doesn’t choose to not attend your sister’s graduation. That would be a tough one to explain to the family!
Post # 6
@thisorderistall: I think it would be fine for him to skip the graduation.
Post # 7
@Daisy_Mae: I disagree. Unless there is some very specific reason why he can’t do it two weeks beforehand or during the week, then I think he should attend the graduation of his future SIL.
Post # 8
I think its really fair. He should be happy that you’re so outwardly cool with him having strippers and going out for a crazy night. I know a group of guys that went to Vegas for a bachelor party and it was like a month before the wedding. Who cares? I wouldn’t want a hungover groom.
Post # 9
My FI is doing his bachelor party 3 weeks beforehand. I think two weeks should be perfectly fine! FI wasnt concerned about when it was, as long as he was able to have a great time with his friends!
Post # 10
Yeah… it sucks though when you’re so short on options; I’m sure he’s not choosing that night just to spite you. I think FI and I pretty much will end up not having bachelor/bachelorette parties because we (and the other invitees) won’t be in town together other than the weekend of the wedding.
ETA: I’m confused why it’s lame to have it two weeks before the wedding. Some people have them earlier than that.
And no, he definitely shouldn’t skip the graduation just for that, when there are other options.
Post # 11
@Daisy_Mae: It’s kind of a big deal to me though. We live in Texas and my family lives in Missouri. He’s met them one time. He couldn’t come with me for Christmas beecause he had to work. His family is wonderful and makes me feel very welcome, as we see the almost every day. I want my family to get a chance to know him a little better and the graduation would be the time to do it. Him skipping out on that to get drunk and see boobs is a little upsetting to me.
@arathella: I agree! And we work at a school, so the week before the wedding he won’t even have to work! He can take a day to recover or whatnot.
Post # 12
Put your foot down! I would be BEYOND furious if FI or the groomsmen were hungover the day of the wedding after I spent >12 months planning every detail because they “didn’t want to have it another night.” I think it’s disrespectful. It’s a WEDDING! Take it seriously!
Post # 13
That’s ridiculous my bil just had his bachelor party is costa rica a month before the wedding. There’s no way he’d be all bright & shining for the wedding if he was partying all night before the wedding. There’s no way fi’s going out the night before the wedding.