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You have some great pictures, and had you not pointed out the hat hair/beard, I wouldn't have noticed them. But once you did, I definitely can see what he's talking about. If he's not happy with them, maybe it's worth retaking them (as long as you aren't paying for a whole new shoot!).
I think if he wants to do it then you should- he should have pictures he likes.
I totally see what he is saying about hat hair and if the photographer offered- go for it.
@Amanda_Rae: I've seen your e-pics on the boards when I was looking for some inspiration for my e-shoot and I loved your pics. I think you both look great and I would say keep them. However, if I were in your position I would probably feel really bad for my FI if he wasn't happy how he looked in the pictures and would consider doing the mini-shoot (I would try to convice him otherwise first). If convincing didn't work then I would do the shoot. Good luck! :)
First of all, I think the pics look great...
Second of all... how is changing photogs going to change his hat hair (or what he sees as the problem)? I mean.. if I hated my hair in a photo shoot, but liked the photos, for the re-shoot, I would just go to a salon beforehand.
ETA - Whoops, I totally misread this. Sorry - revise my "Second of all" to... yes! Reshoot!
Why not take your photog up on her offer. It may make your Fi more comfortable in photos when the wedding comes around.
I think the ones you have are amazing and could be in a magazine! I also agree that it's not the photographer's fault that his beard is "patchy" or his hair isn't how he likes it. That being said, if she's offering and it would make him happy, why not? It's not like you have to give the originals back, right? You'll just get ever more great shots.
If it were you who were unhappy and not him, would he do a retake session with you? :)
I think they are great pictures! I can see the line that makes it look like "hat hair", was he wearing a hat? lol Or maybe its just the way his hair grows in. MY brother had that issue until he began cutting in shorter and eliminated the line. You both have to be happy. If he would like to take new ones and your photographer is gracious enough to offer, why not spend more time with her! She seems great and her pictures are gorgeous! :)
I think the photos look great, and I actually prefer his beard to a completely solid one! But that's just me. Also... uhh... was he wearing a hat before hand? Because if he was, well, obviously don't do that again. I guess if the photographer is offering to do it, just do it - but don't go over board. These are engagement photos that will probably soon be trumped by your wedding pictures anyway. :)
(My engagement photo experience was horrendous, followed by the SD card being corrupted so we had zero pictures. She showed me a couple anyway and I absolutely hated them, every single one. So I understand the desire to get a re-do... but I honestly think your FI is over-reacting just a tad :) )
I think your pictures are beautiful!! (: If I was in your position I would take the photographer up on her offer so that my SO would be happy and confident with the pictures.
I can see your FI's concerns when you actually point them out, but honestly I think I would feel guilty taking up my photographer's time for something that was purely a cosmetic issue on his end. They are all lovely photos IMO.
thanks everyone for the input... just saw this was a dup post.. sorry!
She offered to retake them for free, although my FI insist to pay for them, she won't hear it! Which is why it makes me want to retake them *so* much more difficult!
He is typically insane about his beard... always trimming, edging up, lining up, etc so I think he was really shocked at how it photographed and he wasn't wearing a hat that day so I think it must've been how his hair was growing at the time.
We waited several months to see if it would grow on him and I have used the pics for Save The Dates, invites, printed some out and everytime he sees them he comments on his hair!
I want him to be happy and like the photos... I just feel awful using someones time and talents!
i think we all see our own flaws the most. i wouldnt have noticed what he pointed out on my own. . since the engagement photos are for both of you as a couple you should both be happy with them in the end. as long as the redo is free i would go for it.
@Juliepants: he would definitely do them for me again if I was unhappy... which is why I want to re-do them fo his sake. He has been really chill about everything wedding planning and related so this is the one thing he has really had a strong reaction to!
@Amanda_Rae: those look like minor fixes that can be done via photoshop; ie, fill in beard and adjust the "lines" on his hair where it looks like there's an indentation. Would that be something that's easier for you to accept? ie, have her do the work in fixing the photos to his liking vs retaking the whole thing?
@Amanda_Rae: i just saw your update post. i would worry more about my FI being happy with the photos than using someone time and talent that i already paid. especially if they offered to redo them for free. I know for me if my hair was just not right in a picture i would feel uncomfortable every time i saw it. im that way about certain aspects of myself too so i feel your FI's pain lol i still go with redo them for his sake.
@Amanda_Rae: Well in return you could give her glowing reviews and tell everyone about her and her skills. Not telling people about a free re-shoot, but just how accomodating she is, and how willing she is to make sure this special time for you is prefect. If I saw her pictures I would want to work with her, but if I saw reviews on how much of a pleasure she is to work with, I DEFINATELY would want to work with her! Send business her way. :)
Does his beard photograph like this in all photos? Check some older ones-- sometimes beards are just patchy and there's not much you can do about it aside from a) don't grow a beard or b) photoshop.
I don't think his beard looks patchy or he has hat hair...
BUT he does have GREAT eyebrows!!
@MissCallieJean: oh absolutely...I have definitely sent people her way and she has had a lot of business since she just started out doing it full time. I love her work and have no problem telling everyone!
@bookworm88: I have never noticed it patchy before and neiter has he that he has cared to mention. What he sees and what I see are totally different! Like when I see a picture and I feel fat and he thinks " what the hell are you talking about!".. yeah... thats my reaction when he point out his beard flaws!
@stardustintheeyes: it is looking like that will be the case!
@fiver: lol... I will have to tell him you said that! He also has the longest eyelashes of anyone I have ever seen! I would kill for the length and fullness of his lashes... I hope our kids get them!
You guys look great! Patchy beard and the small 'hat hair' lines can easily be fixed in photoshop, any amateur should be able to handle that. And I definitely wouldn't have noticed unless you mentioned it, I think you guys look wonderful.
But again, if you're not going to like them when you look at them, it may be worth a reshoot. Just don't wear a hat before hand!
this cracks me up! he looks the same in these pics as how he looks everyday I'm betting.
You look amazing, and I think you shouldn't re shoot them, because its a nice memory of how the two of you actually look! On your wedding he will get another opportunity for pro photos! hehe tell him you love the way he looks!
I think they look great but if your photographer is offering to take some more and it will make your FI more comfortable - go for it!
i wouldn't have noticed the hat hair or patchy beard if you hadn't pointed them out first. but, i can understand that it bugs him and that it's all he can see!
that being said, they're gorgeous photos.
i think if it would make him happier, you should do them again... but if i were you, i'd pay for them. id feel guilty doing this for free with the photog, since it's not their fault that your fiance didn't like his beard.
@Heartly: My thoughts, exactly! I know you think you may look a certain way, but after seeing pictures of yourself you don't look how you thought! He didn't wear one that day.. I do rememer that, I think it may have been how his hait was growing at the time.
We took these in October so we have had a few months to look them over and I thought he may eventually come around, but he hasn't yet and literally jumped to the idea of doing a reshoot!
FWIW.. I think my FI is super duper sexy in all of the pictures ( mushy.. I know!) and I cannot imagine him without a beard of some sort or a hat stuck in some back pocket, but I know how important it is to him to have good pictures to look back on... so I guess I will just bite the bullet, find some new outfits and do a mini session over again ... even if I think he is being silly!
I sort of feel bad for your photographer (although she sounds so sweet to offer to do a mini session again!) because they turned out soo great!
@dashwoodgirl: I know...if my FI wasn't so freaking upset at how he feels he looks in them I never would have even considered doing them over again. She is awesome, though... and her work is always top notch
I think these pictures are too stinkin' cute! You guys make a very beautiful couple! I love the photos!!
But if the FI is unhappy and if she is willing to do a mini (free of charge) then go for it. but I honestly don't see anything wrong with them!
I say wear the same outfits for both of you, because it portrays a very romantic mood to the shoot! I love it!
I understand retaking them if your fiance is unhappy. You guys look so in love though and I do hope one day he comes to cherish them since they are adorable :)
well i think your pics are great and i didn't notice hat hair or patchy beard AT ALL until i read your post. BUT, i voted retake simply because your photog offered to do it and your FI wants to. i totally get being super self-critical and little things always bother me, so if it can be fixed and would make him feel better, then i can't see why not? it would also be another opportunity for you to get more comfortable since your picture will be getting taken ALL day on your wedding day!
I remember when you first posted your photos and I was just amazed at how wonderful they were. I would have never noticed his hair or beard.
But since it's bothering him so much, I vote for doing another shoot to make him feel more comfortable with him.
If your photographer refuses money, maybe there is something else you can do for her, a special gift of some sort?
Yes I was definitely going to do something for her... maybe a gift card to a nice restaurant in town or a spa day type thing.
Thanks for all the input, looks like we are going to definitely re-shoot here sometime in the next month or so... so I guess I will have to do another little recap of our epics round 2 when they come out! lol.... oh men....
@missrobots: Good point! You don't want FI to be self-conscious at your wedding because he thinks he will look bad in the pics.
But I also agree that the pics are great and I would never have noticed if you hadn't pointed it out.
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So... we have had our engagement pictures back for several months now. I think they turned out great, and I love our photographer! She is so nice, easy to work with and has done weddings for a couple of our friends and I always love her work.
The issue it, my FI hates the way he looks in the pictures. He thinks he has "hat hair" and that his beard looks patchy. Now, everyone thinks this is amusing because the guy cares so much about his looks and the girl is OK with it.
Neither one of us feel very photogenic, so we were both very nervous about how they would turn out. Our photographer has graciously offered ( on several occasions) to do a mini e-session this Spring to get some better shots for him.
I want to just keep what we have because, like previously mentioned, I can be a tad camera and I think the ones we have are great.
I feel silly taking her up on the offer, but my FI is all over it! Here are a few of our e-pics she did, and a few of the shots my FI isn't happy with.
So... should we just suck it up and keep what we have? After all, it is not her fault that his hair was bumpy! Here are a few pics ti show you what we are talking about...
He says his beard looks patchy in this one...
This picture is one of the main ones he was disappointed with... and we both really liked the shot, editing, angles, etc.... he just hates his hair!