- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I am stressing out prettybad right now. Sorry if its long, just want to give a back story.
FI went back to a job he previously had around the end of February. He gets so much per week (set amount) and then one additional check per month (amount varies) depending on how much work they do. This work is with a friend of his- its a truck driving position. He had worked with the friend for 2 years before meeting me. They pay him by check out of their business account.
When he first came to me and told me he wanted to go back to that job and told me the conditions, and explained how he wanted to do this so he could move up in his career I said it was okay. Even though he would be gone all the time now, I knew it was what he wanted.
So he leaves in Feb and after his first week I am expecting his first check (our bills dont hold up just cause he switches jobs) so I go to pick it up from the friends wife- its our arrangement that way the money can be put right into our account, opposed to FI having that much money just hanging out in his wallet. Anywho, I get PART of it and expect to pick the rest up a couple days later.. well then they decide “Oh, we are going to treat it like a regular job and hold the first weeks pay” UM WHAT?! My rent is due lady, are you nuts?! Well… I figure it out, cause that’s how I do. lol. And everything is good and we keep on with this job.
After his first month, I text him asking about that additional check we are suppose to get each month. I had some wedding deposits I needed to turn in and what not, and I didnt want to lose any of the places/people I wanted to book. Well then FI tells me.. “(friend) said that I wont be getting the additional check each month unless I have my permit” For petes sake. I was in the middle of Michaels when he told me that, and I almost like passed out. It was like a huge blow. I was beyond pissed. Thank goodness for my sister who let me call her and.. basically cry/yell/curse over the whole situation.
I couldn’t really do anything about it though so I had to basically move on, and told FI that we will just get his permit next time he is home (which is who knows when and for how long)
Fast forward to now. This is the first month we are suppose to get this check. I just want to get things paid on. I may ask more than I should about when he will get the check and everything, and FI just keeps telling me that when he knows I will know. Unfortunately at this point its just not good enough, (friend) should know by now how much he is bringing in TOMORROW because he has turned in all his ppwk.
I am so paranoid and scared that hes going to hold it again and just give us another bullcrap reason for why they wont pay it to FI. I’m about at the end of my rope with the whole situation. When FI left his other job to do this it was a pay cut. They ONLY thing that made it worth it was this additional check. I dont expect money where its not due. But this has just gotten to the point where I almost cant take it anymore. FI cant come off the road because the job he left doesnt have anymore openings. So its this or… unemployment? Thats not gonna work.
To the point of this post- If hes not getting the extra money… and we are living paycheck to paycheck… how are we going to afford this wedding I have planned? Fortunately the only deposit I was able to make was the $350 to our venue. So if I have to change the date or not have it there because of price, it wont be too bad of a loss. My other option I was thinking about is having it back up in Michigan (where I am from) because everything is way cheaper up there, and it might actually be doable. The only problem is its not really what I want.
I realize the point of the wedding is FI and I getting married. Regardless of where we have it will be still be husband and wife and that is all that matters. I guess it is just hard to let go of something that I have been working so hard on for the past 4.5 months. I already have some emails in to people back north.. I guess I am just back into a waiting game to see what is going to work out. (bleh)
If you made it through all that. I’m proud. lol.. Thanks for letting me vent that out.