FI keeps ripping his pants… VENT.

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

First, I would shop second hand for his more expensive clothes like suits. Second, how much physical activity do YOU do? I only ask becuase perhaps if he sees you doing it he will want to do it again too. Perhpas you guys could take walks every night, play a sport on the weekends, ride bike, rollerblade, etc. There are many physicaly activities you can do together. Also, opt for healthier meals that still taste good. That may help put his weight into check as well.

Post # 4
365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

SO ripped his only decent pair of shorts yesterday. Luckily it’s the workweek so he won’t need them until I can pick up another pair, but yeah. I have no idea how he made a four inch rip in the seat of his pants!

I definitely echo the second hand shopping idea. That’s where I get most of my clothes, and nobody would ever be able to tell. I just save an insane amount of money!

Post # 6
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Mine does this too. Not to do with weight gain – he’s a bean pole but the crotch of his jeans just keeps ripping in all his jeans whether they are cheap or higher end. He bought some apparently indistructable jeans and took them back this weekend because they ripped – luckily they were quite happy to replace them free

Post # 7
844 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Is he just not wearing the right size? I don’t even know how that would happen unless they were way too tight.

Post # 9
6977 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sounds like he’s wearing the wrong size pants.

Post # 10
1549 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Umm only 5 a year? I got ya beat. Just shop at inexpensive stores and wait for sales and clearance racks and buy the next size up. And make him live on less work pants for the week if need be.

My husband comes home every day with a new giant black grease stain on his work pants. I’ve gotten to the point where I just let him live with the stain. Then he’ll rip them about once a month. I sew them which lasts about one more wear and then he has to live on less work pants for the month. Sorry hun. I’d buy more expensive ones so they don’t rip but he just stains them. Then a every 4 months or so i shop clearance racks at kohls or jcpenney and try to find another 15 dollar pair of pants that’ll get him through.

Post # 11
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Get a sewing machine… and buy cheap clothes. My SO is athletic and has muscular legs/butt – much bigger than his waist. It’s next to impossible to find pants that don’t rip eventually because in order for them to fit in the waist, they are tight in the legs. I hem all my own stuff, and even though he would never ask – I just take his clothes and fix them. I’ve taken in waists on jeans that wouldn’t fit otherwise, and have become quite adept at patching rips in the crotch region. Buy a yard of thin canvas in a neutral color and put the patch on the inside. Once it’s done, all you can see is the one row of a zig-zag stich where the rip used to be and a thin outline of the patch. Not suitable for nice clothes, but it’s saved us a tonne of money for his casual clothes (jeans, kakhis, mending boxers haha). If you put a proper patch on – it should last at least a few more months, if not longer. Honestly, he doesn’t even notice. A sewing machine helps though – much more durable and even stitching – and saves you a lot of time. 

My SO buys suits with reinforced crotches (apparently that is a thing) – they use more durable material/stitching and I think the lining is heavier in that area. It seems to work. He also just has baggier suit pants – doesn’t look quite as sharp but at least they last. 


Post # 12
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My FI has ripped a number of pants/shorts in his day. I don’t know what it is with him and clothes. He also wears his nice clothes to work (promises he wont get them dirty) comes home covered in paint. He doesn’t care about his clothes and doesn’t care if they get ruined. I have had to pry ripped pants out of his hands, because he claims that they are still good to wear. I have no advice, I’m sorry… I’m just all fired up now!


Post # 14
1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My FI has this problem too! I thought it had something to do with the way he sits, because they always rip along the crotch. We don’t have much money for clothes so I am always sewing his pants back together! I’d never heard of ‘reinforced crotch’ pants before reading this thread but I think they might be a good investment!

Post # 15
1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@misswhereami:  Thank you so much for the reinforced crotch pants suggestion! I’m sick of sewing, haha. My FI is also pretty muscular.

Post # 16
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

They make jeans with a gusseted crotch for men. Kind of like the little diamond patch in yoga pants- for a bigger range of motion. Maybe those would work and maybe that company also makes dressier pants.

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