Post # 1
FI was recently laid off. Now im unsure about continuing with planning our wedding. We can still afford the wedding since my folks are helping but what if he doesnt find a job??? I dont want to get married and he’s unemployed! I dont want to sound selfish but i really feel this way. What to do??? I was finally excited about planning our special day. Now i just want to cry.
Post # 3
Oh dear, life always interferes, doesn’t it? You can “if” yourself to death over this, but the job does not make the man, and if your wedding can still go off without causing you undue financial strain, what does it matter? He’ll find a job, and if not, welcome to marriage…Good Times, Bad Times…richer or poorer…it can’t all be wedding cake and sometimes it’s a can of Chef Boyardee and Pabst Blue Ribbon.
Good Luck to you Both!
Post # 4
@bugswifey13: Do you not want to get married because he might stay unemployeed or is it because you don’t want to start off your marriage on the wrong foot??
I dunno… I believe in for better or for worse. I would never abandon my husband or choose not to marry him because he was laid off. Esp since he wasnt fired.. its not like he could control not having his job.
Seems kind of harsh to me
Post # 5
@MrsStrawberry24: My fiance got laid off in August of last year and is still looking for a job. We are getting married in 3 months too! Luckily his parents are helping us out with the wedding. He should be getting a job soon and it doesnt worry me because I love him and know everything will work out fine 🙂
Post # 6
My FI is sort of unemployed at the moment (by sort of, I mean freelance which can be the same sometimes!) and although it’s tough to not have a steady stream of money coming in, if you can still do it without him working – then go for it.
No, it’s not the best start to married life, but I’d rather that than not marry him at all!
Like a PP said, for richer for poorer and all that!
Try not to worry x
Post # 7
@sweetchiquita12: THAT IS AWESOME!! Kudos to you for not giving up on him!!
It will all work out for you guys soon!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
What does his current employment status have to do with getting married? I think you need to explore your own concerns and figure out what is at the root of all of this.
Post # 9
To reply to you all: im just worried about starting our life without a solid foundation. I love him and cant wait to be his wife. Im just a worry wart i guess. Thank you all. I feel better now. My FI is so laid back about everything. He says “It will work out, everything will be fine”. And im the complete opposite. Lol thanks everyone. I guess i lost focus of: for better or worse
Post # 10
I don’t think your foundation is any less solid because he got laid off. 🙂