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We almost moved to Dubai for a job offer earlier this year. After the wedding, we are likely heading to Denver. I certainly had/have apprehension, but I feel like as long as I have FI, it'll be OK.
I think it sounds like a great opportunity provided you can survive on his salary only. I'm sure that there are teaching positions everywhere. My husband got a job across the country a month after the wedding so we had to move for that. I still haven't been able to find a job here though.
@charismaclassic Are you currently looking for a job in CO, have you had any luck? FI said something similar to me today, "We are in this together and we are moving together". In the end, that does provide me with comfort.
At least it's a city you know you love. Look forward to seeing your friends again. According to my friends with kids, they don't take up space until they get a little older, so even if you start a family pretty soon you can live in an apartment for a while. Try to enjoy it. Chicago is a great town and there are some nice neighborhoods with houses. We'll be moving soon after the wedding - to whereever we get jobs!
@ MissAsB I think we are going to sit down as soon as he gets the formal offer and determine how long we could potentially survive on just his salary without sacrificing too much.
@charismaclassic - welcome to the Front Range. It's great!
I'm not looking for a job until he has a formal offer. I'm a teacher/translator so there are a number of places i could hypothetically work, but I know they would probably call for references and I don't want the current bosses finding out just yet, in case the final offer isn't there. We could do OK-ish on his salary, but we do have a house here to sell, so there is some debate about me staying here and working my current job until the house sells, since we don't know how long that could take. So complicated! Planning out the move to Dubai was actually easier!!
Good I'm glad you two are discussing it. I have been without work for 9 months now. Thankfully, my husband's salary can cover all the essentials but I wish we had a little more so I wouldn't feel horrible for buying face cream.
@rachelss - Thanks! Hope it works out for us! FI lived there for 5 years, and I liked what I saw during our visit in September.
@rachelss -You are absolutely right, Chicago is FABULOUS. We both miss the city, that is for sure. I suppose we should cross the family bridge when we get there, but I know we wouldn't be able to buy anything for awhile. In kansas city, our friends are buying single family homes for the same price as a one-bdrm condo in the city!
@charismaclassic - Same here, I've been filling out online applications for school districts but not posting current letter of recommendations :) I'm thinking if anything, I could sub...right?!
@ MissAsB: Exactly! I don't to feel bad about my random trip to Anthropologie :) Luckily, FI's current salary is almost the same as both of ours combined when we lived there two years ago.
I'm moving for FI so that he can complete his Master's degree... but we're only moving an hour away from where we live now. In fact, the first two months of this arrangement might have me commuting that hour every day. Grr.
Next may, when FI graduates, he'll get a job offer that could take us anywhere. I don't mind. I look at it like an adventure, plus I'm a college student that's already broke. It couldn't get much worse--as long as I find a job doing SOMETHING, i'll be ok.
@LaborOfLove Exactly, I just want to find a job doing SOMETHING. I've already told FI if the teaching thing doesn't come to fruition, I'll just go ahead and get a job at Antrhopologie, to support my habit :)
Now that I think of it, FI had a friend move to Minneapolis a few years ago, and the wife quit her engineering job to go...She worked at Target, REI, and then finally found another engineering job...I had totally forgot about them.
Thanks Bees, I feel so much better talking about this!
I understand where you are coming from. I have been dealing with this for the past month too. My FH had an offer letter to work in Texas and the same city where I am currently a grad student. But a month later, he ended up in Oklahoma instead. I just went to visit him and it was ok (lol ok in OK). I wouldn't mind living there because 1. doesn't seem too different from my home town and 2. he is there. But I prefer to stay a little closer to our families.
As of now, I don't know if they will have a position available out here before the wedding, but we decided to stick together. Since he needs a job to take care of us, I may have to move. I know that it may be hard, but I am just praying that God's will be done.
Good luck!
@mizrunzou - That's what I figured, too - I can always sub! Or do translations for my current employer from home. (That would be great!)
FI got the offer today....now we have to make a decision - ahhhhH!!
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FI may be getting a job offer that will require us to move back to Chicago after the wedding. Supposedly the formal offer will be given to him by the end of this week, it is on the boss' desk awaiting signature b/c they were on vacation last week.
I'm torn. I LOVE Chicago and I have many friends there b/c I lived there for 4 years after college...it is where FI and I met. We moved back to KC b/c I got a job offer and I wanted to be near my family. His job offer means I move away from my family (which i can deal with) and I do not have a job. I'm also concerned with how easy it will be to start a family in Chicago (apt. living vs. house, etc)..
Not having a job and committing to move is what scares me most. I am a teacher, so maybe I can find something. We've always said since FI will be the breadwinner we should go where his job takes him, where there are bigger and better opportunities- which means going to Chicago. He actually travels TO Chicago for work Mon-Thurs now as a PM, but they would be making him a Delivery Manager that requires him to be there at all times.
Have any bees moved somewhere for their SO, even though they had apprehension (family, job, friends, etc).
I don't know what to do!
EDIT: I posted this on wb b/c I don't really want to tell our friends or family yet because hasn't gotten a formal offer yet...but I needed to get it off my chest and get some advice/support!