FI May not get time off for the honeymoon.

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hmm, that really does suck – he can’t get his boss or HR or whoever he reports to, to sign off on his vacation sooner? That seems a little ridiculous. I would go ahead and plan everything assuming your husband will get the time off. What else can you do?

Post # 4
560 posts
Busy bee

Don’t buy it, ask for that form now, duplicate it and hand it in, or get it in writing that “it will be fine 2 weeks before”

You don’t need this stress.

Start researching jobs for him, ask friends, anyone who may have contacts.

Post # 5
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yeah.. we are taking a 2 week honeymoon – I’ve already had fi ask HR about it because I wasn’t going to pay for anything for the honeymoon until we KNEW he would be able to get it off.

Luckily, his work is very reasonable and pretty much gives you off whatever days you have ask for, and if for some reason they can’t, they give days off in order of priority [wedding, funeral, ect], if there isn’t any high priority cases, then it goes by seniority, which my fi holds over his department.

Post # 7
560 posts
Busy bee

But.. end of April is like really soon. Remind him it’s a month away..

and it’s not even a case of: “if you don’t ask you don’t get.”

Because he did ask and he didn’t get !

That is why it is doubly important to badger them for an official answer..

(How does he think now famous people who had no contacts got anywhere? By pushing. People don’t think less of you for doing it. They expect it.)

Tell him it’s a question of importance: your wedding and honeymoon rank higher than someone just planning a trip and running it by management. This whole: yeh yeh yeh it will be fine attitude from them is actually a little bit insulting to his ‘arrangement’ with you.

People who put themselves last mean less work for management in the here and now, but then you run the risk of being stressed when they start dallying and you simply need to know where you stand.

So, can he at least get a conversation going with them over email, then he will have something in writing. I mean that is the absolute minimum here..

Tell him it’s all very well taking a relaxed approach but that this would mean a lot to you and is quite crucial for your future. He will be marrying you (and not the company) so it is *you* he needs to impress. 

Perhaps he really believes it will be fine and you know.. I’m sure it will. But it is peace of mind you are after because you want to be enjoying the run-up to your big day and not have the company feature as being in the power position because they already dominate in his life.

So tell him to reclaim his identity and man up 🙂

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