Post # 1
Well guys, today is my birthday. Whoo. I drove FI’s truck to work today b/c of the bad weather (Last night I got stuck and I spent almost 2 hours trying to get home and get unstuck). This am, I got a text from FI about taking his truck and that he hopes I have a good day. So I just responded with a thank you and acted like nothing happened. I was thinking he forgot it was my birthday! And he probably did b/c don’t you think he would have said “happy birthday” instead of “have a good day”? Well whateverrr- later on he texts me and says happy birthday; he said that he thought he told me earlier. I feel like it’s a cover or something. THEN he texts me later after that and says “you took my truck! I can’t get your presents!”
Like.. is it MY fault he offered me to take the truck? I know he wasn’t trying to be rude when he said that, but now it’s basically my fault that I won’t have any birthday “presents”? WHAAAT?
AND THAT YOU PROBABLY FORGOT IT WAS EVEN MY BIRTHDAY? (presents aside, b/c they don’t really matter!)
I know this seems really bit**y, and it’s really not about the presents, BUT I’d like to have a special day and wish he would have been a little bit more prepared. I’ve been gloomy all day about this b/c I really do feel like he forgot it was even my birthday this am when he told me to have a good day. Am I making sense? UGH.
Post # 3
((HUGS)) I’ll shoot him an email or text letting him know that there will be plenty of time to buy you gifts and take you somewhere nice after you get home from work…
Post # 4
I’d be a little annoyed, too, but at the same time, I don’t think it’s a big enough deal to get too wrapped up over it. Guys are not prepared. It’s not what they do. They always wait for the last minute! And our birthdays are just that–they’re birthdays. Plus, we JUST had Christmas. I’m sure he was thinking one holiday at a time. Unless you’re turning 21 or 30 or 40 or 50, it’s kind of easy to forget birthdays I think. Because it’s not like we go “omg i can’t WAIT to turn 24!” or at least i’m not. Shoot, DH forgot I’m only turning 24 next month–he thought i was turning 26! But it’s not a big deal–he forgot how old I was. So what? No biggee. I’m pretty indifferent and if we go out later, that’s fine, if we celebrate another weekend, that’s fine. Is it still a little early for your FI? I could totally see myself not being focused on my SO’s birthday (or our anniverary–seriously i set up timers on my work laptop becasue there are too damn many dates to remember!) because i just wasn’t awake or there with it yet. He was sweet enough to text you in the morning after you took his truck and wish you a good day.
If it really bugs you that much, say something. Don’t fester in it all day and let you ruin your day.
Post # 5
First off – Happy Birthday!
Secondly, I have definately learned that guys a) do forget b) put things off to the LAST MINUTE! It is so aggravating & I definately understand why you are upset 🙁 I think if he did forget, then as soon as he remembered he felt REALLY crappy about it & I don’t think he was directly blaming you for taking the truck (since he told you to) I think that comment was a direct result of forgetting about your birthday, and so he said that instead of “WOW. I AM SUCH A [email protected]$$! I JUST FORGOT MY FI’S B-DAY!” (Although that may have been MUCH more satisfying to hear lol).
Hopefully he will make up for it somehow later this evening & you can finish off the day fantastically even though the start of it wasn’t that great.
Post # 6
Ohhh I wish! I don’t get out til nine 🙁
He asked me if I was disappointed in him and I was gonna say I was but then I just lied and said it was ok (which I never do.. I alwsy speak my mind to him). Then he said that he felt bad and I was like well! idk what to tell you obviously. lol.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
i’m sorry he forgot your birthday (if that’s what it was)–i would be bummed also! that being said, i’m actually really bad with birthdays, some people just are. maybe he will make it up to you in a really sweet and fantabulous way?
Post # 8
HAPPY BIRTHDAYYY! :):):) How old are youuu?! 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
Don’t let it get to you too much! I am sorry he forgot and wish you a Happy Birthday!! But, I agree that guys aren’t always prepared and he may just be the type that doesn’t remember b-days. My FI is horrible with dates and forgets peoples b-days all the time….I make sure to remind him the days up until it happens and write in on the calendar. Not because I want to get presents, but because I know he would want to remember and not have to guess why I am in a pissy mood come b-day. I do the same thing for other important dates too….I am hoping that once we are married it will be easier on him though. He knows what our wedding date will be when asked and he knows my b-day is the day before…so I assume he will clump them together in one celebration once we are married. Until then I will leave the subtle reminders, cuz I know if he could remember he would.
Post # 10
Happy Birthday!!! sorry to hear that your FI forgot…..or maybe he’s trying to be “sneaky” and really planning something for when you get home, or this coming weekend??!!!!
So once you get done work, go home, drink some wine (or whatever you like), and relax with the man you love 😉
Post # 12
I’m sorry.. that must be a sucky feeling, but I’m sure he is kicking himself over it. If I were you, I would say, “So when are you going to take me out for my birthday?” Haha!
Post # 13
First off- HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! It’s a good day to have been born on previously :o). Second off, I will raise my lonesome hand and say that I technically forgot my FI’s birthday until about Noon on his B-Day… yes I admit it’s insane and yes I admit it’s all my fault. But honestly some of us are just scatterbrained and it doesn’t mean we don’t love who we love- it just means sometimes we forget dates…
Post # 14
well now he definitely owes you one (or two, or three…. or four!)
Happy Birthday – don’t fret .. bdays are over rated 😉