FI NOT excited to wear ring. At all.

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
4649 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

texaslemon:  I wonder if he’s not the type to want to wear jewelry?? I suppose most men don’t, really, though. But like he’s worried about it. Tell him my husband says it feels totally natural and he doesn’t even know he’s wearing it. It’s just a part of him now.

Post # 3
2628 posts
Sugar bee

This would also totally bother me….just sayin…

A wedding band is not just a piece of jewelry. To ME, it is a significant statement. If I were you, I would tell him kindly how you feel and ask him if you are just misunderstanding the situation. It’s not like the ring is raised or a hassle to wear…it’s just a flat band and shouldn’t even be felt if sized correctly.  When I tried on rings with my boyfriend, he was totally psyched about it.

Post # 5
2657 posts
Sugar bee

Some guys just don’t like rings.  Try not to compare him to your friends’ husbands, because everyone is different.  Maybe he’ll change his mind after he tries some on, but you should accept the possibility that he may just not be a ring guy.  

My FI spent a whole 15 minutes choosing his ring and went with the simplest style he could find.  He has zero interest in colors or materials, and he zoned out of any conversation I had with him about it.  I would say that you should drop the band talk if he’s so disinterested and just find a time to go to the jewelry store together.  He may just want to get in, make a decision, get out, and not think about it any further.

Post # 6
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

texaslemon:  Your best bet would be to invest in a plain band and see if he can start wearing it a couple hours a day just to get used to it. Does he work with his hands? That could be why he is hesitant.

Post # 7
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

texaslemon:  My husband was not excited to wear the ring. Like PP, he went to the store with me when I dragged him, chose the first gold band he tried on, and was dont with it. I could tell for the first few days he was really annoyed by the feel of it on his finger, but now he loves it! He digs the symbolism, and the feel doesn’t bother him anymore. 

All will be well!

Post # 8
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My DH was originally reluctant to wear his. Before the wedding he told me that he probably wouldn’t want to wear it all the time and would take it off when he was at work (lots of physical labor, so understandable) but I don’t think he’s taken it off more than twice since the wedding over a year ago. I think after the ceremony he understood the symbolic meaning of it. Also, for like a week after the wedding I told him constantly how much I liked seeing him wear it and how it was sexy to see that obvious token that he was “MY” man. Who knows after the wedding, you might never have to worry about it. I feel for you with the stubbornness -guys can be so pig-headed sometimes!

Post # 9
1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Some men just aren’t the type to wear jewelery, even big, important pieces like a wedding band. I know for a fact that my dad never wore his, ever. Doesn’t mean he wasn’t married and didn’t ask like a married guy. :S

Post # 11
7216 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Most men aren’t into jewelry. I wouldn’t look into it. As long as he’s not downgrading it whats the problem. 

Post # 12
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

texaslemon:  I don’t get this mentality some women have of “I told him it’s important to me so now he must do it”. That is controlling behaviour 101. He clearly feels differently about wearing a ring so why are his wants automatically pushed aside?


Post # 13
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel


texaslemon:  My husband was the exact same way righ up until we went shopping for his ring a month before.  He kept changing the subject, declare over and over again that he’s not a “jewelery person” and just overall put off looking for one. 

He just needed to try some on.   We went out a month before the wedding and luckily we were in a tiny downtown area that happened to have 6 jewelry shops in a 2 block area and we tried on all kinds.  He found one he liked and now he LOVES his ring.  He talks about it all the time and says he’s happy he found one.  He totally changed his tune.

Get him to try a bunch on

Post # 14
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

texaslemon:  This is the same with me. FI does NOT want to wear a ring at all. I think he feels it’s too feminine to wear jewelry and it drives me crazy. I want him to wear a ring for the symbolic reason and feel proud to wear it. But, that’s probably not going to happen.

We did come to a compromise, we are both getting wood wedding bands. He likes the idea of a wooden band, and most important it can easily be taken off if he breaks his finger or something (he’s constantly in the work shop building things so him breaking a finger is a possibility).

I still don’t think he’ll wear it all the time, but I like that he found something ‘manly’ that he likes.

Post # 15
2082 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


texaslemon:  No advice for you but just wanted to say that would bother the shit out of me too. Guys can be so effen dramatic sometimes. You’re getting married and you need to pick a ring you’d like to wear!!! Even if you don’t care about it yourself grow up and humour your soon-to-be wife since it matters to her!!!

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