Post # 1
Hi girls…I have a good looking fiance who absolutely HATES to have his pictures taken! We had an impromptu engagement session last summer on the beach in Cape Cod and the pictures were DISASTROUS! We have our real engagement shoot with the photographers shooting our wedding next weekend, and I haven’t been able to get FI excited about it. He doesn’t want to do it in a location where there are people around, he’s very private and anti-PDA. I don’t want the pictures to come out bad like last time, any advice on how to get him excited for the pictures? Suggestions on how to make him more comfortable with the whole thing?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
When she gets back from her honeymoon, you oughta get in touch with Mrs. Gloss! Her mister wasn’t a fan of engagement pics, so they delayed on them — but eventually got them done before the wedding! Good luck!
Post # 4
Mine was a little un-easy over the idea. But then when I suggested taking pictures with airplanes (his favorite thing in the world) he was super excited. He still didn’t want people watching him so we only took my friend to take pictures and my mom to help carry our props and extra clothes.
I know my photographer takes enagement photos in her backyard in front of pretty flowerbeds. Maybe you can find a private location like that. Or find something he can be excited about like a place, car, etc.
Post # 5
I know the feeling! Since we’ve been dating, I’ve broken him into the camera… they don’t do cameras in their family and if I hadn’t taken pictures of his ordination or graduation, we probably wouldn’t have had any!
Post # 6
My fiance told me he ended up really enjoying it because it was a break from the hustle and bustle of a normal day, and he got to hold me and kiss me and just enjoy time with me for a whole hour without having to worry about anything.
Maybe spin it like that in a positive light, trick him into thinking it will be fun!
Post # 7
keep it as low key and low frustration as possible and he’s bound to enjoy it! It’s a day to hug and kiss his bride to be, just point out all of the good things about it! 🙂
Post # 8
Get him drunk! Or maybe just buzzed. Hehe kiddinggggg. Kind of .
Post # 9
Yes, have a glass of wine beforehand. Is there a private residence where you can have them taken? I have seen some really great engagement shots taken that way. Ask the photographer to give him lots of feedback. It is hard to know what to do on your own (take her hand, kiss her, tilt your chin down, think about the first time you ever saw her). That helped me at our shoot.
Post # 10
Oh and maybe show him some sets that you love. I think some guys are just completely clueless about what exactly you want out of the pictures.
Post # 11
We didn’t do engagement pics, and it was fine. I would have liked them only because I am so uncomfortable in front of the camera, I’d rather practice. (which might be a great argument for you.) But my husband hated being “on” for the cameras, and I’m glad that I didn’t force him to do them (especially because he would have been a total pain!)
Post # 12
My FH is also totally not into pictures. And on top of that it was a morning session. Double urgh. So I hopped him up on Monster energy drinks and chocolate. Helped until the crash…
Post # 13
My FI was the EXACT same way! He is not into getting his picture taken anyway, and he really isn’t comfortable with PDA. We also had an impromptu engagement session that turned horrid. I went ahead and set the whole thing up and just told him when. We went to an old train station in downtown Omaha, so there were no people around for him to be embarassed in front of. Everytime he wouldn’t smile, I’d just gently remind him how much we’re paying this man to take beautiful pictures of us, and by not smiling, he was just ruining them! The whole thing went very smoothly, and our pics turned out awesome!
Post # 14
Mine were a disaster. I don’t know what to say. I’m worried for the wedding!
Teach him how to look at the camera. Look down for 1, 2, look up three and smile (photographer clicks). I learned that when I modeled (however amaturishly 😉 ).
Maybe promise him a sexy something later if he behaves or a nice meal or to do something around the house that he’s wanted you to do for awhile…IF he behaves…
Post # 15
Hi bees! I took your advice and suggested a place where we go all the time, so he was more comfortable with the location (Old Wethersfield, CT). I think he had fun, definetly not as bad as he thought it would be. Haven’t seen any results yet though, they said about three weeks! I’ll let you know how they turn out!
Post # 16
Yes, definitely keep in low key, and have a couple meetings with the photographer, that way your FI can get comfortable about him/her, and the whole situation. It is quite normal for someone to not like being photographed, but I am sure that he will compromise with you, for the sake of what it’s for.