Post # 1
We’re not getting married until October 2010 but my mom has been hounding me to register because people are asking. I keep telling her to chill and we’ll look into it come January.
I thought it would be something completely fun that Fiance and I could spend a few hours doing on a Saturday. He asked where I was thinking and I told him Bed, Bath and Beyond and then Macy’s. Pretty standard, right?
BB and B due to the larger selection of items rather than Target and Macy’s because, well, a girl does want some ultra nice linens.
He thinks BB and B is too expensive and I’m just looking at him like he has horns. Granted, we are older, have a lot of stuff but I’m taking this opportunity to upgrade some things. And then once I said Macy’s he almost fell off his rocker. Since Macy’s is closer to my office then our home, I told him I can just do it alone (after the look I got from him). But of course he was like, No, no, no, I want to go too. Once he sees the prices at Macy’s I think he’ll freak.
Any suggestions? Anyone else having this issue w/FI?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
BB&B is too expensive??? I definitely don’t think so!!! I would try to explain to your Fiance that the idea is to have a good range of prices so that people can find something at almost every price point!!!
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s too unusual for men to have a hard time with this… My husband was raised with his mom making all the home goods-type purchases – he never saw how much anything cost, he never thought about the different trade-offs as far as quality and durability versus price. When he got out on his own, he thought the prices at IKEA were way too high. IKEA! Seriously!
A couple of points for your Fiance to consider: BBB and Macy’s have lots of sales and coupons – in this economy, Macy’s is running sales pretty much constantly; your guests will not be paying full price, for the most part. Another thing: most people don’t want to give you a wedding present that “will do” – they want to give you something that you’ll like and use, and that will last.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
BB&B is one of the less expensive places you can register. Take him to W&S and see if he reevaluates his position on BB&B ;).
Post # 6
tell him about the 20% off coupon that everyone always gets from bb&b. that’s the main reason i wanted to register there. people like discounts!
Post # 7
Thanks bees! Good points and tips. I’ll be sharing these with him tonight.
Post # 8
Maybe compromise on things that are really useful, having a slightly smaller registry. Honestly, I had the same problem as your Fiance and I couldn’t get over it so I didn’t register. I think there would have been ways I’d have been OK with it but since my Fiance wasn’t going to do the shopping neither one of us suggested anything else and we just didn’t have one. But I do agree some things at BBB are just overpriced, sometimes not well made.
Post # 9
I would definitely send him to the Williams-Sonoma and Crate and Barrel websites to show him pricing. BB&B is a relatively inexpensive place to register. Also, he may not be aware of what people normally spend on a wedding giftand you should definitely put things with varying prices on the registry. I usually spend $50-$100 on a wedding gift. Guys just don’t normally have a lot of experience with that stuff and need to be “clued-in”!
Post # 10
You can always start your registry online together. Then, if you want, go into the store and make sure the items you registered for are quality items. It may not be ideal- but at least you’ll be doing it together…
Post # 11
We did the same thing – created a small registry because our parents asked us to. I created a small one of everyday dishes & linens that I did all online because I knew Fiance wouldn’t care what our cake stand looked like.
We’re skipping Macy’s because BB&B has all the same stuff cheaper. I agree with the PP who said bring him to W&S, Bloomingdales or Michael C. Fina – then see what he thinks of fine china at BB&B & those 20% coupons. LOL
Post # 12
My Fiance is one of those that doesn’t understand why anyone would spend $100 on one place setting of china. Macys was more on the expensive side but it does have nice stuff.
I would start at BBB and explain that the things really aren’t that expensive and if guests want to give you a nice gift, then you just want to give them options. Once we got into it a little bit he was more interested in the process.
Adding things online is a good idea, I have been trying to add things at the store and then come home and edit online. You really do want to see the quality of the items in person if you can.
Post # 13
Give him the registry gun and all will be well…that’s what happened when we registered at Target. Fiance was NOT excited about it at all, but then when they handed us the zapper gun, I can’t get him to stop! lol.
Post # 14
I think that BB & B is a better choice. They aren’t really that expensive plus they send out the 20% coupons every week and they don’t expire so you can use them for a long time!