(Closed) FI received an invitation to his cousins wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t see any harm in asking – the worst thing that they can say is no, you really aren’t invited.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree about asking.  I wouldn’t fill in the space for two people.  Just honestly say you’d love to see the venue in aciton.  They may be keeping their list down due to cost or it may have even been an oversight.  When you deal with large gatherings, it’s easy to make mistakes in the invitations.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Get your FI to ask  – it’s his cousin. I’d give them the benefit of the doubt, because it is possible they just forgot!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ask! I had a friend invite me to her wedding with JUST my name on it, and I was concerned because I didn’t want to go without FI. I asked and she had already been counting on having him in the guest numbers, just not on the invite. She assumed I was bringing him, so had I not asked, I would have not known!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I wouldn’t feel bad about it; maybe she doesn’t know your full name, so that is why she didn’t add you, and she didn’t think to ask her mom for it. When I sent out our invitations, I sent them out with the amount open, in case someone wanted to bring a guest or two because I didn’t know if some of them were in relationships or not. The invitations were the same for everyone. If she wasn’t expecting a few extras, she wouldn’t have left that spot open.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You know, as much as I hate to be THAT person… I’d probably just RSVP for two and see if they say anything. 🙂 You’re engaged and living together, I see no reason why you should be excluded. That’s just rude.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’d ask, but I’d be irritated if I were left off because that’s an enormous faux pas. You don’t break up social units like that.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t see the harm in asking – hopefully you will get to go too! It would be weird to invite someone and not their FI.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Same thing happened to me, and when I showed up alone, they asked why my boyfriend wasn’t able to come with me. …because he wasn’t invited??

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

@iheartnerds:

+ 1 completely.

It wouldn’t have a blank spot if it were only intending for one I don’t, think!!  It would say basically ….FI Name ___ will ___ Will not be attending instead had it been meant souly for him.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly, I don’t think a lot of people know wedding etiquette.  Look at how many posts there are on here from brides saying, “They returned their RSVP for 3 when only 2 were invited.”  Maybe the bride/groom are unaware of the etiquette and just assumed FI would invite you.  I would definitely have your FI put out the feelers and see what their intentions were – I’m guessing you’re invited.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I dont think you should worry about it, im sure it just slipped to include your name on the invite. We all know planning a wedding can sometimes be stressful. Dont worry about it just put 2 on the rsvp card and send it back 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@KristenGotMarried:

Yeah just ask. I don’t think its a problem. Maybe they just didn’t fill it out properly.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Get him to ask. I’d feel more comfortable knowing for sure then just putting 2.

She probably just overlooked it. Don’t stress about it.

ETA: I recently received an invite to my cousins wedding and it was just addressed to me but my FI is invited as well. Some people don’t spend as much time researching and learning etiquette and all that like we bees do.

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