FI refused sex, because he 'rather watch TV'

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Does this happen often or just this one time. If it were a one time thing then I think you are blowing this out of proprtion. if it happens regularly then i think you should talk to him.

Post # 4
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How long have you been together?  My husband and I sometimes aren’t on the same schedule for wanting to have sex.  It’s just what happens, especially if you’ve been together for a long time.  He may feel comfortable enough with you that he can be honest, which is a good thing!  

Post # 5
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@peachacid:  +1

OP there are days where I am a raging beast and I want sex NOW NOW NOW and DH is like “Eh, I’m tired, playing PS3 or watching TV etc” and then there are days where he grabs me up and tries to unbutton my pants and I’m like “Eh, I’d rather paint my nails, read a book, eat a sandwhich etc”. It happens. Overall we are very sexually compatible and have a great sex life, but there are some days where one or the other just isn’t really feeling it, it is totally normal.

Unless he makes a habit out of this, or is constantly refusing your advances, I wouldn’t worry too much. Please DO NOT doubt yourself, I am sure you are one heck of a woman!

The only thing that WOULD bother me in your scenerio is his response, after you told him he hurt you…”ok” is not a sufficient answer. He should have given you more of an explanation.


Post # 8
7282 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Demanding sex from someone who doesn’t want it and then trying to emotional blackmail them isn’t very nice either.

Sometimes people just don’t want to have sex for what ever reason. No means no even when it is a male saying it.


Post # 10
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t see a problem with it. Sometimes, people just aren’t in the mood and it has nothing to do with you.  You shouldn’t be doubting yourself or making him feel bad for not wanting it at that time.

I don’t think it warrants further discussion.

No means no, and it shouldn’t make you upset.  If it’s an ongoing problem, then sure it may warrant a discussion but every now and then if he’d rather do something else there’s nothign wrong with that.

Post # 13
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I agree with PPs. As long as this doesn’t happen all the time, I personally don’t think there’s a problem. I understand you may have felt ready, but you also have to be considerate of his feelings and desires. I’m sure he is still just as attracted to you, but he was busy!

Post # 14
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@anonym1:  Just tell him that you were upset.  But also know that he won’t always want to have sex when you do.

Post # 15
5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@anonym1:  lesson #1: sex will never, EVER take priority over football lol. I learned this early on. During football season I may as well be a nun because that’s what I get… NONE! 

Post # 16
1996 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Aquaria:  hahahs fi will dvr ot pause a game & then come back to it afterwards. 

I know people are saying its no biggie but I’d be pretty pissed off. You’re not in the mood fine but don’t dismiss the fact that I’m upset. I would talk to him about it, wish I had more advice but haven’t been in the situation.  

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