- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My birthday was a few days ago and my Fiance was supposed to get the day off to celebrate it with me. He said it would be no problem. A week prior he said he could not get the day off (friday) but he could get the following days saturday and sunday off. I was upset but I sucked it up and said it was fine. I got many birthday wishes on my birthday and smiled and acted like my Fiance had great plans whenever friends and family asked, even though I was really holed up in my apartment trying to keep myself occupied.
Finally, saturday came and Fiance said he wanted to take me out to a movie but we needed to do it at a certain time so that we could get back and watch a football game. I was upset about it, and told him so, and he assured me that it was my day and we could do whatever I wanted. We went to the movie and then he started to head home. I threw a fit asking why we were going home, he could at least take me out to dinner. He said he only had money for a movie. Now he is the only one that works, I am a student and live off of a stipend and student loans so yes money is tight. However, for his birthday, I arranged a trip to Orlando Florida, and he can’t even budget money to show me a nice time on my birthday.
As soon as I started talking about this he said he was sorry for ruining my birthday and got really upset. So much so that I started comforting him and telling him it was alright even though I felt like it wasn’t. There are things he could have done that I would have loved that would have cost little to no money. So we get home and we watch football the entire night, well he does while I slept.
He said he’d make it up to me next week but this is a pattern. It has happened before on other birthdays, anniversaries etc. and I have always come to his defense and comforted him, making excuses like “He doesn’t know what I like yet,” “Finances are tight now.” I just don’t know where to go from here. I don’t know how to talk to him about this. I’m upset and trying desperately to hide it wondering if I am just being a spoiled brat.
Sigh. It feels good to get this out ladies. Thanks