(Closed) FI saw a picture of me in the dress…..grrr!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

This happened to a good friend of mine who left her laptop open after showing the photos on it to someone.  She was uspet at first, but she feels like since you aren’t done up like the day of the wedding, who cares.  If you aren’t terribly superstitious, oh well, right?

Besides I think based on this an anthoer thread I’ve read you post on, you don’t have a traditional dress.  If I were you, I would have wanted to get a gauged reaction anyway – My FI would HATE anything other than a typical gown!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

FI has never seen me in a dress (at least he says so!) but I’ve showed him pictures of dresses I was considering in the past. I had to have his opinion and I’m so glad I did it!

Your FI is probably right, although he knows it doesn’t have poofy 80’s sleeves now, he most likely won’t remember/can’t visualize how you will actually look once it’s your size. Keep the pictures on friends cameras or on weddingbee for now! Haha that’s the only place I have pictures of me in the actual dress, whenever I want to see it I sign on and look at my dress post ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Guys are very visual.  Seeing it on you when it doesn’t fit right probably won’t register in his mind.  I think that he will be stunned when he sees it on you fitting properly.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Uh oh.  Deleting mine off of my camera right now.  Seriously, I wouldn’t worry about it though.  You’ll look so different on the day of with everything all put together — makeup, accessories, bridal glow.  He will still be surprised and stunned when he sees you in your dress all done up ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My FI has seen pics of me in the dress but only ones with my head cropped. I actually insisted that he look since I was having dress doubts. Month later when my dress was featured in a magazine (in a collage with others) I showed him very excitedly and he asked me “which one is your dress”. To him it’s just long and white, the details will never stay in his memory. Although he’s telling everyone that I bought a “mermaid” dress because he heard me say so, probably has no idea what it means ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yep. Just the other day, actually. And no, I’m not mad. Why? Because he’s a guy. He won’t remember what it looked like in 8 months, especially since I plan on adding sleeves and stuff.

Post # 11
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78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

wow ladies, you are all very level headed. I think I’d be pretty upset but you are totally right the fit is SOOO important. He’ll be blown away seeing you in all your bridal glory. I’m going to go look for your old thread on your dress because I’m curious now!

Post # 12
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78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

oooh I see I didn’t realize that was you. I really like it! I don’t think I’ve seen a scalloped(SP?) bottom like that! The top of mine is scalloped.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My FI went shopping with me. Lol.  I’m not very superstitous and I didn’t think it counted.  I thought it was seeing you before wedding on the actual day of the wedding.  I couldn’t imagine picking a dress without him.  He has such a calming effect on me.  I get kind of stressed out clothes shopping because it isn’t something I really enjoy and him there smiling at me gives a welcome boost to my self esteem (I’m a bigger girl so societal pressure and what not).  I don’t know…maybe it’s just me but I feel better knowing that my guy approves of the dress I picked out.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Oh no!  I feel your pain!  My SO was looking through my cell phone pics and saw a picture of the dress which was just the bottom thankfully, but there’s a reflection of me in the background because of a mirror.  He looks up at me with this guilty look, “who’s dress is this?”  And I turned so red and was furious at myself for not deleting the pics.  To try to console me he said he would probably forget by then, so I hope that happens. 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my fh sort of saw me in my dress, but the photo was enlarged and she just saw part of it. he was cleaning some pics off my desktop and stupid me had the pic open. all he could muster was “wow that’s a big dress” but ofcourse it looks big zoomed in 200% ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My fiance saw a picture of me in what I thought was going to be the dress, and I was a little upset for about a minute, then I thought about it and realized that everyone looks 100x better in their dress on the wedding day (complete with wedding day glow!) so it doesn’t really matter if he sees me in a crappy photo with a too-big dress and no makeup…because it won’t look nearly the same as it will on the actual day!

I changed my mind from that dress, but it helped me to realize that it didn’t really matter to me, so I have actually willingly shown him a photo of me in the new dress that I chose, just because I think it’s a nice little tease! 

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