- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
It started when I shopped hotel bids and reserved a room block at a downtown hotel near public transportation. Then my father wanted to throw a barbeque the night before and I was against it as guests would have to get to his house and back after I’d arranged for them to stay downtown without the need to rent a car. He and his wife spent about an hour convincing me that it wasn’t a big imposition for the guests or a big expense to host a wedding-eve barbeque.
I sent out invites last week and the one friend from college asked me if I were inviting another friend from college, as her husband might not come. Plus she might stay at a hotel outside the city to save money. So even though I went to her wedding I feel really guilty about the expense and inconvenience if she does come alone. The friends I invited are from different points in my life and I was counting on them bringing spouses so they’d have company. I went to many weddings stag and know what a lonely, miserable chore it can be, particularly out of town.
FI reminds me my friends are smart and capable of entertaining themselves and all that I put my father through just so he can throw a barbeque that I don’t have to fund or organize.
I still have some sense of disbelief that people would want to come to my wedding, at my age, and worry about people I didn’t invite who might think they should be there. Unconsciously I think I didn’t invite some people because they are raising families.