Post # 1
I thought a boudoir shoot would be really fun and an album would be a cool gift to give to my Fiance. Plus, I love my photographer and think she’d do an awesome job. When I mentioned boudoir shoots to Fiance, he said he thought that’d be kind of awkward. Then, I asked him if he’d like it if I did one, and he said no! Our photographer is female, so that doesn’t have anything to do with it. He just thinks it would be weird to have sexy pictures of me “just laying around the house.” He’s Catholic and often talks about his “Catholic guilt” haha.
I kind of want to do a shoot just for me because I think it’d be a blast and would be a great confidence booster, but now I’m not sure if that’d be a good idea since he said it made him uncomfortable.
Anyone else experience anything remotely similar with their FI?
Post # 3
I haven’t experienced this, but I also sort of feel like the boudoir shoots are awkward. It’s just not for me and my Darling Husband…he would feel pretty weird getting those kinds of photos of me and having them lying around. It’s just not us.
I’m not saying that they’re a bad idea in general…if it works for you and your FI/DH, then more power to you. It’s just not something me or my husband would be into.
Post # 3
I think you could easily make the pictures classy but still sexy. I did them but also had the fear of someone finding them, so I made sure to only use pictures I wouldn’t be totally embarrassed about if someone else saw.
Post # 4
I am just wondering but why would have feel guilty if he is going to be your husband. I thik it’s okay to have some sexy pictures of your spouse, and they don’t have to just be laying around. I would put them in your room in a safe palce, like a closet helf. or in a safe or something? I’m just curious as to why he would feel guilt over this? Is it a sin in the catcholic church to have pictures like these of your own spouse? I could see maybe if you gave them to him before you were married or something, but hmm I don’t know. Explain please, haha.
Post # 5
My Darling Husband doesn’t get the point of them. He says “You’re married to the person, why do you need an album of them in sexy outfits and posing?”
Oh well, not everyone’s cup of tea!
Post # 6
I’m not crazy about boudoir either and for this very reason, no matter how classy they are, you still dont want just anyone to stumble upon them and look at them.
Post # 7
@KatyElle: Haha, yeah, my Fiance is kind of like that too. He’s the same with lingerie. He’s like, “I know what’s under it, and I know it’s gonna end up on the floor…what’s the point?” Too practical for his own good.
@SoonToBeMrs.Kiss: He references his “Catholic guilt” anytime something makes him feel awkward sex-wise. He says he remembers going to a class with a priest and nuns and his dad when he was like, 9 or 10, and he said it scared him until he was about 18 haha.
Post # 8
Ok i’m going against the grain on this one. I’m doing boudoir photos this coming weekend. I’m doing them for Fiance of course but also for me. I’ve worked hard to look good and I want to document that before I get all pregnant and saggy. I want Fiance and I to have this book so we both can always look at how sexy I was, (even when i’m 60 and so far from it).
Also, I guess I’m not very shy so while I certainly don’t intent for it to be just left around the house, I wouldn’t be mortified if anyone came across these photos. I guess my reasons are the same as Samantha’s from SATC. Does anyone remember that episode?
Post # 9
Oh okay that makes sense I guess.
I like the idea of them but I also kinda have don’t see the point on paying to get them down, when FH can see them anytime, haha Idk. That’s just me though.
Post # 10
@Meowkers: I’ve worked hard to look good and I want to document that before I get all pregnant and saggy.
That was my thinking, too!
Post # 11
I did it, gave it to Fiance and I love it way more than he does. I guess now I view it as I did it for myself. And I think I look damn good.
Post # 12
I did a boudoir photo shoot for my Fiance for Valentines Day. I was sooo nervous going into it, but once I got there I felt comfortable and sexy in my own skin. My Fiance LOVED it. Ya, they already know whats underneath it all, but to play dress up, and do something different is totally worth it!
You dont have to be nude at all! I wore my Fiance football jersey in one, and a lingerie piece in another, but it covered everything and i wore fishnets. He really LOVED every single picture.
We keep it in his closet, We’ve only shown the people who we wanted to see (not every single picture). I felt amazing after I did it, and I felt even more amazing once he seen it.
I say GO FOR IT! If you’re not going to do it for him, do it for yourself
Post # 13
I asked Darling Husband if he would want this and he said no. He would much rather have me dress up for him in whatever sexy lingerie I have than to look at pictures of me! And once he said that, I realized that doing a boudoir would really only be for me and making myself feel hot!
Post # 14
I’ve decided to do these and I am worried that my Fiance will not see the sense in them or not be as excited about them as I am. I thought long and hard about it and decided that I am doing it as much for me as I am for him and like PP, even if he doesn’t love them, I will (I hope!).
Post # 15
My only concern with having them around is that one day you will be 90 and your children will have to take care of you and clean out your house….then they will find the pictures…
This is my biggest fear….seriously..hahahah
But if Fiance doesn’t want them you need to decide if you want to do it for yourself, which is a perfectly acceptable excuse for getting them!!!