Post # 1
okay so my Fiance has been married before but his family isn’t willing to help with the wedding at all. I love his family , I guess it feels like a slam on me because, I have never been married before. My Fiance is 10 years older then me his first wedding was in TN with like 5 people … they didnt have a reception,cake,or even a wedding dress. So I dont get why they act like they forked out mega bucks for the wedding before. they are supportive and excited but keep reminding me its my Fiance second wedding and making me feel bad I just stopped talking to them about it.. his mom and dad are both re married… HELP ME even worse my future father n law told my Fiance he wouldn’t of gotten remarried if he had to do it again. WOW way to make me feel welcome o and he is close to my Fiance ex wife. HELP me any advice on how to deal with this?
Post # 3
i think this is probably very common. his parents already gushed and looked at dresses and planned a rehearsal dinner. i think if they do not want to pay for a second wedding, you should respect that. however, i can see how they are deflating your joy be constantly reminding you that Fiance was already married. i think as time passes, you will grow to be a member of the family. but for now, the whole wedding planning process is probably a reminder of FIs failed marriage and their own failed marriages.
Post # 4
I’m in a similar situation with the Fiance at least. We are 11 years. He got married the first time 10 years ago. It’s hard to feel as special when he’s been through it before, but keep it about the 2 of you. I would just not talk to his parents about it. Talk to the people who are really supporting you. I don’t have any Future Sister-In-Law drama because my FI’s mom passed away and he doesn’t really like his step-dad.
And IGNORE his Dad! So many men say things like this; it’s annoying.
Enjoy your wedding and make it all about the two of you! Do everything he didn’t the first time around.