- 3 years ago
Well, I am sure at least one of you has been keeping up with all my drama LOL. Even so, I just wanted to boast to someone and let other women know it isn’t impossible!! -giggles-
FI stood up to his mom about the guest list. She had previously hurt my feelings and offended both of us about the guest list since none of my family is coming to the ceremony or reception (except my dad and his gf, if she is even still around by then!) and was trying to invite ALL of her family, even though we have a maximum of 36 people who can come to the ceremony.
She mentioned the guest list while we were out to dinner Saturday. Apparently, FI’s cousin (who has NEVER been around and doesn’t talk to him literally at all) came to my FMIL’s house and had the damn nerve to ask if her and her husband (who has lied to my FI numerous times) were going to be invited to the wedding. :O
FMIL made sure to mention that as soon as she brought up the wedding. I’ve learned, the hard way, to NEVER bring up anything wedding-related with anyone aside from my best friends and the FI.
Well, FI flat out tells her “Yeah…that’s not going to happen. I hope you didn’t invite them!” Then she is like…shocked, it seems. So then she fumbles around for this little remark “Well, I really do wish you would at least invite OtherCousinAndHisWifeAndTheirInfant(separate couple from before)…you know, they’ve been soooo nice to me.”
So FI flat out again tells her “Well Mom, you already said they were just nice to you and everytime I try to talk to them they ignore me so no…they’re not invited either.” I butt in and have his back with this. I have LITERALLY seen him try to have a conversation with them and they ignore the hell out of him.
So then when she gives up on that…she tries to talk him/us into allowing the autistic eight year old to come to the ceremony. He is FI’s nephew who we BOTH simply adore. But by no fault of his own, he literally physically cannot sit still nor be quiet. Literally. I love this little boy to death and that’s why I want him at my reception…but I would simply have a heart attack if my vows were interrupted.
If I had my way, and I have given in a hellofalot, NO kids would be coming to the ceremony OR reception. But I have given in and allowed kids age ten and up to come to the ceremony but kids under ten to be with a babysitter that WE are going to provide. There will only be three kids between 10-16 at the ceremony.
She says “Well, what if the (autistic’s mom..who also has an infant!!! Grr) mom doesn’t want to leave him and the infant with a babysitter and wants them at the ceremony? Or what if they just keep them outside?”
Um..what? Since when do they get to choose?
So FI says…”Well, since I don’t even like my step-sister, none of them have to come. It will save us a lot of money and headaches. So I sincerely hope she doesn’t have the nerve to bitch about any of this. Especially since WE’RE paying for a sitter.”
I thought her head was going to blow off LOL.
But she hasn’t said a word nor seemed mad at all. So maybe she got the point! We are paying, and if anyone doesn’t like it…then they don’t have to come!
I’m quite proud of him. -tear-