Post # 1
well we just bought my FI wedding band its a matte black band that he loves…i brought up getting a matching band for my engagement ring and his response was i dont think so we are just going to use the ring you have…my engagement ring? that i had to wait 8months to get since he didnt propose with a ring and we where going through tough financial times….the fianances got much better and he had my ring custom made. but now he doesnt want me to get a band….idk how to react to this…it kinda upsets me …i rly wanted a band …evenually a matching band with diamons would be nice, but for now i want a regular white gold band. how do i deal with this? i’m thinking about just saving up seperately and buying my own band without his approval or go ahead
Post # 3
Hmm… maybe have a more in-detail conversation with him? I have talked to multiple people recently, and in the past, who have such differing ideas about wedding rings, etc, and what people do. For example, some think that you get the engagement ring, then when you get married you don’t wear it anymore, and only wear the ‘wedding’ ring. Others I know never even really got an engagement ring at all (questionable relationship), but they are saving up for the ‘wedding ring’, which is other peoples’ engagement rings. There are so many ways people handle it. Maybe your FI assumes a certain way is normal, it may not even be about the money. Maybe he assumes that most people don’t wear separate wedding rings today. I would maybe ask him WHY specifically he doesn’t want to buy you a band, that may help you. And maybe letting him know how much it means to you. Especially just a plain gold band… if finances aren’t an issue then maybe he is just confused and will be open to the idea if you explain it or something… I hope it works out for you! Having your FI not understand something like that is really frustrating…
Post # 4
I think if you explain what wearing a wedding band means to you then he may have a change of heart. Maybe his response is finanically driven and explaining a plain one is ok for now.. or maybe he just didnt know. One guy friend of mine had no idea girls typically had an e-ring and wedding band. I agree with the poster above about them meaning different things to different people but you and your FI should find a way to be on the same page.
Post # 5
it’s very frustrating…i’m an artist and i take my engagement ring off often to make sure i dont get paint or yuck in it/on it so i have told him that i want a plain band so i have something there symbolizing our marriage all the time…and i’ll be able to keep it on while i’m doing my art
Post # 6
@shawndy: Maybe he thinks the wedding band will be just as much as the e-ring & that worries him. You can show him lots of plain gold bands online under $200. Even some under 100 if you get 10k.