(Closed) fi thinks i shouldnt get a wedding band

posted 6 years ago in October 2012
Post # 3
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341 posts
Helper bee

Hmm… maybe have a more in-detail conversation with him? I have talked to multiple people recently, and in the past, who have such differing ideas about wedding rings, etc, and what people do. For example, some think that you get the engagement ring, then when you get married you don’t wear it anymore, and only wear the ‘wedding’ ring. Others I know never even really got an engagement ring at all (questionable relationship), but they are saving up for the ‘wedding ring’, which is other peoples’ engagement rings. There are so many ways people handle it. Maybe your FI assumes a certain way is normal, it may not even be about the money. Maybe he assumes that most people don’t wear separate wedding rings today. I would maybe ask him WHY specifically he doesn’t want to buy you a band, that may help you. And maybe letting him know how much it means to you. Especially just a plain gold band… if finances aren’t an issue then maybe he is just confused and will be open to the idea if you explain it or something… I hope it works out for you! Having your FI not understand something like that is really frustrating…

Post # 4
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1432 posts
Bumble bee

I think if you explain what wearing a wedding band means to you then he may have a change of heart. Maybe his response is finanically driven and explaining a plain one is ok for now.. or maybe he just didnt know. One guy friend of mine had no idea girls typically had an e-ring and wedding band. I agree with the poster above about them meaning different things to different people but you and your FI should find a way to be on the same page.

Post # 6
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11397 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@shawndy:  Maybe he thinks the wedding band will be just as much as the e-ring & that worries him. You can show him lots of plain gold bands online under $200. Even some under 100 if you get 10k.

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