(Closed) FI thinks im not sexual enough……

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would tell him it’s the surroundings and not him!

Post # 4
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Suggest a weekend getaway, just the two you, where you can have non-car sex 🙂

Post # 5
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I’d tell that boy he needs to be popping for a hotel room somewhere. You might feel a little more in the mood if you get out of the truck.

Post # 6
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

MRSA!!! Yikes… Don’t mess with MRSA!  There will be times in your relationship when doing the deed is not high on the priority list.  I think you should have a frank discussion about that. What about when you have kids? What about if you get sick?  Does he understand that sometimes you will not be able do it? Is he ok with that?

I agree with others about making a weekend for the two of you, but wait until the MRSA is cleared up.

Post # 7
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Ex was like this. You might want to look into counseling if he doesn’t believe you that it’s not him it’s you, yada yada yada. If he isn’t listening that your sex drive is lower than his, or that you don’t want to have car sex, then you really need to sit down and talk about it. Otherwise you’ll both start doubting your sexuality, and that’s not healthy.

Post # 8
861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hmmm…it sounds to me like Fiance has the problems…not you!  MRSA is really terrible and highly contagious and ummmm…really unattractive/not sexy!   Please don’t feel bad-anybody would feel the same way under those circumstances!

Post # 9
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I defintally would tell him that you guys need to hold off on sex until he is better. I am surprise he would even risk giving it to you. Also car sex is not the great, maybe occastionally. I would recommend a weekend away once the MRSA clears up.

Post # 10
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You poor thing I wouldn’t want to have sex in a car either, My Darling Husband only gets sex once a week (depends on the week) and we live together therefore have a bed to use, dont beat yourself up over this one.

Post # 11
4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@simpleandchic: I agree! Sex in a car isn’t fun! Darling Husband and I usually have sex once or twice a week and we live together also.


Post # 12
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree with a previous poster! He does realize that MRSA is not something to mess with, right? Why would he endanger your health just to get himself some pleasure? What about the WEEKS/MONTHS it takes to recover from having a child, and that’s when everything goes normally. What about when you become ill? Will he relentlessly tease you and try to pressure you into it, making comments about how you aren’t satisfying him? That’s not healthy.

**I’m not saying your SO is or will portray any of these things, it’s just that sex is a very powerful manipulative device for men and I don’t want to see you get hurt**

Post # 13
2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would just be honest with him. He has to know that car sex is not the most romantic place in the world.  Not to mention that MRSA is awful and he needs time to recover.  Please make sure you guys discuss it though.  Intimacy has a funny way of coming up in other ways in a relationship. Especially if one of you is feeling less desired or rejected. Remind him of things that you still find attractive and things that still turn you on but be honest in that the location isn’t ideal and you haven’t really felt in the mood lately. And seriously, he needs to fully recover from MRSA!

Sex Drives fluctuate all the time.  It’s completely normal.  An evolving or changing sex drive isn’t a problem in itself — Not talking about it is.

Good luck! 

Post # 15
44 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

How do you have sex in a pick-up truck?  Hopefully when he’s not driving.  Surprised

Post # 16
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sex only once a week, really?! Does that change when you get married or has that the way its always been??

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