Post # 1
SO… lately I have just honestly not been in the mood for sex at least once a day every day and he is like twice and hour every day. He’s like becoming depressed because I’m just not as horny as him anymore. I told him it was nothing to do with him, but that I just wasnt in the mood… I didnt want it, I was in a bad mood or had a headache or was honestly too tired…. We also live apart , him with his dad and I live with my family… so its ALWAYS car sex, and he has a chevy colorado… NOT the most romantic thing in the world, plus he’s recovering from MRSA… it just SUCKS! ….
Post # 3
I would tell him it’s the surroundings and not him!
Post # 4
Suggest a weekend getaway, just the two you, where you can have non-car sex 🙂
Post # 5
I’d tell that boy he needs to be popping for a hotel room somewhere. You might feel a little more in the mood if you get out of the truck.
Post # 6
MRSA!!! Yikes… Don’t mess with MRSA! There will be times in your relationship when doing the deed is not high on the priority list. I think you should have a frank discussion about that. What about when you have kids? What about if you get sick? Does he understand that sometimes you will not be able do it? Is he ok with that?
I agree with others about making a weekend for the two of you, but wait until the MRSA is cleared up.
Post # 7
My Ex was like this. You might want to look into counseling if he doesn’t believe you that it’s not him it’s you, yada yada yada. If he isn’t listening that your sex drive is lower than his, or that you don’t want to have car sex, then you really need to sit down and talk about it. Otherwise you’ll both start doubting your sexuality, and that’s not healthy.
Post # 8
Hmmm…it sounds to me like Fiance has the problems…not you! MRSA is really terrible and highly contagious and ummmm…really unattractive/not sexy! Please don’t feel bad-anybody would feel the same way under those circumstances!
Post # 9
I defintally would tell him that you guys need to hold off on sex until he is better. I am surprise he would even risk giving it to you. Also car sex is not the great, maybe occastionally. I would recommend a weekend away once the MRSA clears up.
Post # 10
You poor thing I wouldn’t want to have sex in a car either, My Darling Husband only gets sex once a week (depends on the week) and we live together therefore have a bed to use, dont beat yourself up over this one.
Post # 11
@simpleandchic: I agree! Sex in a car isn’t fun! Darling Husband and I usually have sex once or twice a week and we live together also.
Post # 12
I agree with a previous poster! He does realize that MRSA is not something to mess with, right? Why would he endanger your health just to get himself some pleasure? What about the WEEKS/MONTHS it takes to recover from having a child, and that’s when everything goes normally. What about when you become ill? Will he relentlessly tease you and try to pressure you into it, making comments about how you aren’t satisfying him? That’s not healthy.
**I’m not saying your SO is or will portray any of these things, it’s just that sex is a very powerful manipulative device for men and I don’t want to see you get hurt**
Post # 13
I would just be honest with him. He has to know that car sex is not the most romantic place in the world. Not to mention that MRSA is awful and he needs time to recover. Please make sure you guys discuss it though. Intimacy has a funny way of coming up in other ways in a relationship. Especially if one of you is feeling less desired or rejected. Remind him of things that you still find attractive and things that still turn you on but be honest in that the location isn’t ideal and you haven’t really felt in the mood lately. And seriously, he needs to fully recover from MRSA!
Sex Drives fluctuate all the time. It’s completely normal. An evolving or changing sex drive isn’t a problem in itself — Not talking about it is.
Post # 14
@firsttimemom: You are so so so sweet ! Thank you
And to everyone else thank you very much, its nice to know im not crazy and I am not the only one who has been in this position. 🙁 I did suggest the weekend getaway and THEN he got MRSA grosssss. He’s been on 2 weeks of antibiotics and has 2 more weeks to go, the doc told him as long as he has the mrsa covered with a bandage its wont be contagious, which still freaks me out and I dont trust it. I honestly have been showering immediately as soon as I got off the date haha! : ( I feel like he DOES care about me and my health but he’s trying to find a way around it… :-/ guys and their sex drives!! Anyways Thank you lovely bee’s! I needed it!
Post # 15
How do you have sex in a pick-up truck? Hopefully when he’s not driving.
Post # 16
Sex only once a week, really?! Does that change when you get married or has that the way its always been??