Post # 1
When Fiance and I started dating, I was 5’9, 125 lbs, no fat at all on my body. Now I am still 5’9 (duh) and 145 lbs. I asked my Fiance if he thought I would look better if I lost 10 lbs and he said “well, I don’t really care, but maybe you should so that you will stop worrying about it.” So, he didn’t say not to, but he didn’t say I needed to either-basically I figured “whatever.” . That was a week ago. Tonight I ate a cookie and Fiance looked at me and said “I thought you were trying to lose 10 lbs.” I have been in our room ignoring him for the past hour and I have no plans on coming out of here anytime soon. I’m so pissed at him. I don’t expect anyone to reply to this, I just had to vent to someone other than my mother (who would think it was a GREAT idea to lose 10 lbs.) UGHGHGHGH Now I feel like he will be looking at every single thing I put in my mouth…
By The Way I ATE THE COOKIE.
Post # 3
@lucyv2003: I hate that, especially because I’m using myfitnesspal to track my calories, so if I’m eating a cookie it means I have the calories left for it, dmanit! He means well, but its annoying.
Post # 4
honestly, he probably did not even realize what he was saying, just making a comment. Sometimes men are completely clueless about this sort of thing.
Post # 5
I learned quick I need to watch what I tell Darling Husband because he’ll ‘help’ me accomplish whatever it is that I’m whining about… ie: I’m so tired / him: why are you staying up so late, etc… he’s done something similar to me about food and I just have to laugh…. although, his new line is: I don’t want to hear about it! (meaning – if you eat it, don’t whine about feeling bloated because of it!) 🙂
Post # 6
He was probably just trying to help. Men suck at such things and women also suck at reading too much into things.
Post # 7
@lucyv2003: That sucks. I get where you’re coming from. But I’d encourage you to pop into the “what would you do if your man was balding” thread. If you read through the responses, all of the ladies said that they’d love their Darling Husband either way, but if he decided to pick up the rogaine and “fix” his hairline, they’d be supportive of his decision, but wouldn’t mind what he chose since they love him anyway.
It sounds like this is what your Darling Husband was trying to do, but it may have come out in the wrong way when the cookie entered into the picture. Maybe he just wanted to be supportive of your decision, but wanted to be clear on what it was? It may have confused him to see you with a cookie since you mentioned not long ago you thought about losing weight.
I’m sure he didn’t mean to hurt your feelings. ((Hugs))
Post # 8
Lol this is why we women should keep certain stuff to ourselves. I sure he didn’t mean it in a bad way n just trying to help. But when someone says that it just makes u a tad insecure. Men don’t realize we need somestuff sugar coated.
I used myfitnesspal too. It makes me question even looking at ju ice lol.
Post # 9
@sunnywoods: I have a love/hate relationship with it. Its helped me lose 25 lbs but it makes me question everything I want to eat or drink!
Post # 10
He was likely just trying to help. I’m sure he didn’t mean to upset you. Also have you been complaining about needing to lose weight a lot to him? Cause to guys…if they hear us whining about something over and over but we continue to do the same things that cause the things we are whining about, it easily frustrates them.
In the grand scheme of things is it really worth being that angry at him? Over a comment on your choice of snack? Maybe talk to him and let him know that you appreciate him trying to look out for your goals, but that there is a right and wrong way and that next time maybe try to be more supportive than critical with his comment. I know sometimes I get angry with my Fiance over silly stuff and have to calm down, take a step back and think “do I really want to waste time being mad over this?”.
Post # 11
Aww… I’m sorry you’re upset but I’m sure he was just trying to be supportive of your goals. My husband gets mixed messages from me too about wether I want him to be my accountability buddy or just shut the heck up while I eat my cookie. I say cut him a little slack 🙂
Post # 12
@lucyv2003: BTW I ATE THE COOKIE.<— that was my favourite part, lol.
Forgive him and move on! It doesn’t sound like he was saying it with any malice or ill will toward you. It’s not like he said, “You should lose ten pounds, don’t eat that cookie,” he was probably just remembering what you said yesterday and felt confused. I don’t think he meant to hurt your feelings!
Post # 13
I emerged from the bedroom and apologized for over-reacting. Nothing like a little bee to get my brain working again… Fiance sends his thanks.
Post # 14
Glad things are ok, lol. It does humble you a little when you have to apologize for overreacting(I do that all the time to him).
Post # 15
Aw, I’m glad you’ve made up. Sometimes they just mean well and don’t think. I’m sure he’s learned a lesson too.
Post # 16
MissBoPeep – I’m the same way! I use myfitnesspal(which my brother got me hooked on) and although FH never comments, my brother told me I didn’t need to be eating a very small piece of cake one day. It was Valentines Day, too! I’m like PSH, ITS WITHIN MY CALROIE LIMIT! He took the rest of the cake and threw it away! He said I didn’t need to eat it anyway regardless of whether or not it was in my calorie limit.
Sorry Lucy =(