(Closed) FI wanted me to ask wedding bee….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t. And are you sure these folks want to come and dance and hang out with folks who have already had a seated dinner with dessert and pictures etc? It seems, somehow.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Personally I would be offended if I was only invited to the dancing.  Some guys might view this differently, as just another reason to party and drink, but if my FI was invited to something like this, I know he definitely would not attend.  It’s like you’re “not good enough” to be invited to the rest of the big day.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

As far as whether it is “tacky” if the friends don’t care, then I wouldn’t care either.

But, as far as the contract goes, I am a bit of a wuss and would be uncomfortable with it.  I wonder what the extra fees are?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

We did this for local people.  No one seemed to care and the people who came showed up and seemed to have fun.  They weren’t our closest friends and some of them were his parents friends.  I donno, it worked out just fine. 

But we didn’t have contract issues to work around.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

I think this inappropriate. I would have to say that I would also be offended if I were invited to the “dancing only” part of the reception and not for the full reception. I wouldn’t do it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Don’t do it! These people aren’t enough to be invited to the actual wedding, so why are they important enough to risk ending the reception over a contract dispute???

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

ummm…. no.

1) it’s in your contract. the contract you agreed to and signed! why take chances?

2) a lot of people would think it rude. maybe have an after party instead and invite them to that?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Rancho San Carlos

I once received an invitation that was poorly designed, and it initially seemed like I was only invited to the “dancing to follow” part.  Even though I wasn’t very close to this person, I initially felt a little bit offended – like why would they invite me at all?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Nope. I’d be offended.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Nope. Many people would be offended if they were just invited to the dancing part – I think if you have an after party, that would be a great opportunity to invite them!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I like to think that guys would be a bit more lax on the offense part, especially if they fully understand the situation. But I’d be nervous about the contract-explicitly-stating-we-won’t-do-this part. That makes me think “no”.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

No.  No way.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t do it.

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