FI wanting to keep it cheap…..ridiculously cheap

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

SkinnyLatte17:  he probably doesn’t realize how expensive it can be to even have an at-home DIY wedding where you have to rent most things out. Hopefully when he hears the numbers he will have a better grasp on things! I might tell him, “hey FI I want to sit down with you and talk about some wedding things. When is it a good time for you?” And then just tell him. He may feel more open to talking about it if you give him the choice about when to talk about it instead of just springing it on him. Good luck!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

SkinnyLatte17:  My SO thinks we can get married for $300.00….. So you don’t have the only cheap one.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - The Wayside Inn

SkinnyLatte, the flip side to this is that a European honeymoon can be very affordable! The plane tickets are the most expensive part, but once you get there, you can find great deals on nice hotels if you stalk European versions of Groupon and the like. It’s even cheaper if you’re willing to forgo more traditional Western Europe destinations for places in Central Europe, like Prague and Budapest. Maybe you can do some research on the honeymoon front, so that the $8k pricetag feels like less of a blow? If your upper end is $15k, there’s no reason you can’t have both!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

As someone who did a backyard wedding with all the rentals – I can definitely concur that rentals add up quickly! We did a casual backyard wedding with tons of DIY for 150 for $18k. But I’m also a bride that spent way more on my honeymoon than my wedding, so I get your husband’s point of view as well. 

I think you both need to sit down and talk about priorities. You need to go through your finances and comme to an greement on budget. There are tons of ways to cut costs both on the wedding side and honeymoon side.  You both are going to need to be able to compromise. And do some initial groudnwork to have some realistic price ideas for the major costs on both wedding and honeymoon.

There’s a solution there somewhere, you just need to talk it through to find it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

SkinnyLatte17:  this won’t be the last time you guys will have different ideas & different priorities. just try to find a compromise that works for both of you 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I just had an idea, though it may not work for you, but what about scaling down your wedding guest list, inviting only the most people closest to you and having a destination wedding in Europe? That way you are already there and you have a beautiful place to have your wedding.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

SkinnyLatte17:  I know photography is important because it lasts forever… But if he sticks to his 3k budget that is two thrids of your money right there. Sure you want to go that route?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

OMG I just typed out a bunch of stuff and it didn’t post!! Ahhh!

SkinnyLatte17:  So, in the post that was lost, I was asking you where in Indiana your venue is? Mine is in southern Indiana near Evansville. My package (the Fri/Sat package) is $2800 (gratuity included) and covers food for 25 people, $42 per additional guest, up to 60, cake, overnight room for bride and groom, lakeside ceremony, officiant, white garden chairs, and altar table. They have a bunch of options for add-ons. The same package runs for $1900 for Sunday-Thursday. It’s a beautiful place that wouldn’t need a lot of decorating. There’s an on-site wedding planner/DOC.

I just wanted to throw that out there since you mentioned Indiana as an option.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

New Harmony Inn in Posey County

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