Post # 1
so my fiancee told me tonight that he wants to get a black wedding band.. idk if its just me or what, but i dont really like the idea of a black wedding band. i know it isnt my decision, but i would rather he have a band that matched my rings, which are white gold. but then he told me if he couldnt have a black band he would want a yellow gold band. i guess my question to you girls is: do you think its weird to have ur FI have a black band to get married with? would it bother you if his ring was yellow gold rather then matching yours if its white gold?
maybe im just being silly. idk.
Post # 3
It’s his ring. The bands don’t have to match. He’s the one who has to wear it. Let him get what he wants. Turn the situation around. Would you like it if he told you to get a different ring to match the one he wants? Would you get a different dress to match the vision he wants?
Post # 4
i think black bands are neat! and who cares if they match, my fi’s ring does not match my set whatsoever! i love it though!
Post # 5
I actually really like black wedding bands! My husband picked a brown one, I LOVE it.
Post # 6
I think a black band would compliment the white gold nicely =) I have seen quite a few men with black wedding bands and i think they are pretty cool looking. I wouldn’t like it so much if you had yellow gold but white gold is fine in my opinion.
Post # 7
I’m with you that I wouldn’t be crazy about the idea of a black band, or non matching metals in general… but at the same time I’m definitely in the “its his ring” camp.
I assumed my DH would have a nice white gold, milgrain band that would complement my rings. He now has a tungsten carbide and was inches away from picking a ring I personally hated. Despite my opinions on the matter, I supported him in his choice! Its his finger not mine.
I have to say though, I’d take the black over the yellow gold. I think it would look fine!
Post # 8
my fiance has a black band and loves it. he wanted something that wasnt common as you see a lot of white gold, platinum or gold band. maybe u guys can come up with something you both like. Here is the website where i got his ring titaniumkay,com they have some cool ones.
Post # 9
my biggest concern about a black band is that it wont look like a wedding ring, but rather just a ring. i guess thats what bothers me the most about it. my family is very traditional and the fact im getting a diamond band already baffles them. i guess im like my family when it comes to seeing others with tradition. ive never been a traditional girl so picking what they consider a non traditional band didnt phase me.
do you think the black band will look like a wedding band?
Post # 10
He deserves to choose the ring he’ll be wearing the rest of his life.
My wedding band is platinum with a smattering of pave diamonds. My mate has chosen a smooth platinum and yellow gold band. We definitely had different tastes in this arena.
Post # 11
He deserves to pick out his own ring. It doesn’t matter if it looks like a wedding ring to you or anyone else–what matters is that he likes it.
Post # 12
I definitely don’t think your band has to match your FI’s band. Let him choose what he wants, and you go with what you like.
Post # 13
As long as I see a ring on a man’s left ring finger, I’d comfortably assume that it’s a wedding band
Post # 14
I never thought SO would pick one, but here’s the one he likes to best so far. And the diamonds help so that it well never be mistaken for a regular ring.
Post # 15
I had never seen black bands before. I think they are kind of cool. I say let FI pick whatever he likes. He has to wear it and it really doesn’t matter if your rings match.
Post # 16
@Mewcakes: Oooh I love that band!
Like a PP said, I assume someone is married if they are wearing a ring – regardless of color/metal type – on their left ring finger.