FI wants an UGLY wedding ring! Aghh!

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s his ring.  He’s the one who’s going to wear it.  Why should you care so much? 

All of the time, there are post on here of girls complaining they don’t like the ring their FI picked out, and the consensus is always, “Tell him, you has to wear it.”  There is no double standard here.  He has to wear it.  What you may think is ugly, he may love.  Let him get the ring he wants.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@BurlapnLace:  I actually don’t mind his last two picks.  Those are still nice and make me think “wedding band.”

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BurlapnLace:  I see nothing wrong with any of those rings, and honestly, it’s his ring. Let him get a ring that HE likes

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

LOL My FI likes the bands with the diamonds in it too but I let him pick out what he wants within a certain price range and I choose based on the options he provided. The only thing I told him is that it had to be white gold (yes I wanted our metals to match, sue me) and that’s it. And every single one of those rings look like wedding bands to me, quite frankly I was happy that my FI gave me options to explore, I’m the type that buys based on what you like not what I want you to have. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

It is his finger and his band, I would get him what he wants.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

It’s his wedding band and he is the one who has to wear it all the time. He should get to pick it, and like it. 

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@abbie017:  +1000. We want what we want, its only fair that he gets what he wants too! Oh the joys of compromise Laughing

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

You have some time before the wedding …. maybe you can help him think what will look great long term? lol DH liked the one with the wood in it, and then he liked the one with the diamonds.  I just kind of gave the pat answer of .. .”meh it’s your finger it goes on not mine”.  He finally went with your no.3.  Then he bought another plane one to wear everyday.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

There’s nothing wrong with those rings. They may just be his taste, not yours, and he is the one who has to wear it. How would you like it if he made you get a ring you hated?

It will be on his ring finger. People will know it is a wedding band. Women get non-traditional engagement rings all the time and it’s not really an issue. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I like many of his choices, and I dislike one of yours. There are many different styles, and he has to choose one he’ll feel comfortable wearing. If he’s not into traditional rings, it’s not a problem. My FI’s rings look a lot like the titanium/black/red one your FI picked (only there’s no red in it). Actually, it’s also my favorite out of the bunch. I think your FI simply has ”modern” tastes and you, you’re more into traditional styles. Same story here : my ring looks vintage, his is very modern. They don’t exactly match, but they’re 100% ”us”.

I think men allow the brides have so much control over the wedding planning that the least we could do is let them have some control over the tiny little details they will specifically request for their wedding and marriage, too. Especially if it’s a piece of jewelry he’ll have to wear every single day.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@BurlapnLace:  Haha!  Yeah, Mr. S joked for a while about wanting a ring that had meteorite, wood AND antler…. um, NO.  Sorry, it was hideous. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I don’t see anything wrong with any of those rings… and my boyfriend thinks wooden rings are super cool (I do, too).  I was expecting something like the light-up ring one guy made, or something else ridiculous.  Lighten up; he has to wear it, not you.

ETA: Might want to stop calling popular styles “ugly.”  I see more men with black rings these days then silver toned metal ones. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BurlapnLace:  I don’t think any of those rings are ugly at all.

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