(Closed) FI wants his daughter to do a reading… And she's 7

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Weetzie:  Let her do it. It would be so important to him and to her.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Have her practice a lot before hand. Listen to her while she does it, and make sure to remind her to be loud. I think it would be very sweet to have her do a reading. It’ll make her feel special.

 

Oh, and print it in your programs! 🙂 So the guests know what she’s saying.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@Weetzie:  aw so precious! let her do it of course

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If it were my child, I’d have been upset too if my FI voiced opposition to something like this. Family is more important than a perfect reading. Yes, you smile and enthusiastically include this little girl.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Let her do it. It’s important to him and it will be important to her. Overriding his request just because you’re worried it won’t be perfect isn’t the right thing to do.

Have her practice. Don’t coach her, don’t tell her how to do it, but just tell her she needs to be loud enough for a lot of people to hear.

I also second printing it out so people know what she’s saying just in case she is quiet.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@missmorganista:  seconded. practice and print it! if you don’t have room IN your programs (like we don’t), print the readings on another piece of card stock for your guests. 🙂

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it’s so cute.  I agree with PP, have her read it alot, you know kids memorize books if you read to them enough.  I’d also print it out for the guests to read along.  Maybe have someone stand next to her so she’s not too nervous?  Someone she’s comfortable with.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

People will think it’s so sweet, even if they can’t hear her. Maybe have someone older, even your FI standing with her so she is not so nervous standing there by herself. If she does start to whisper, he could let her know to speak up or to read along with her, she will probably then try to be loud so everyone hear’s her voice over her fathers and will forget that she was ever nervous!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it would be adorable.  Just have him practice a lot with her.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@Weetzie:  Oh dear. I hate this type of crap. A wedding is about the two individuals above all. Not their offspring. Why not have her do the reading and videotape is so you can play it the day of the wedding? That way she gets as many tries as she needs to get it right and she can watch and enjoy it with the audience rather than have to do it live? Nobody wants to watch a 7 year old have a wedding day meltdown and deliver a crappy reading. Awkward!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

That’s so cute! Let her do it!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think she should be capable of doing it, and I wouldn’t worry too much about nerves, especially since it’s only 50 people. I have my grade two class get up and speak in front of the whole school and parents at assemblies, and no body really gets nervous because we’ve practiced so much.

She’ll be fine. And if she isn’t, oh well. Like PPs already said, people will understand, and printing the words in the program is a great idea if you’re that worried. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Weetzie:  Just let it go. If it doesn’t go well then in the end, does it REALLY matter? If she freaks out then maybe her daddy can stand there with her and they can read it together.

Weddings aren’t about being perfect… especially when kids are involved. I think this would mean a lot to your FI.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@bunnyharriet:  I’d rather have an adorable 7 year old fumble through a reading than listen to boring adults stumble through speeches/readings lol (it happens).

I think that since he has 3 kids, the wedding should be more about joining the FAMILY than having a perfect, flawless ceremony.

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