Post # 1
We are having a small outdoor wedding, around 50 people total. My aunt is doing our bible reading and I wanted someone from my FIs family to do the other one (“What is real?” From the velveteen rabbit). His kids are already going to be involved in ceremony putting together our unity cross and being flower girls and ring bearer. They are ages 7,5, and 3. When I asked him who he wanted he said our 7 yr old Cadence. She is a great reader for her age, but I’m worried she will get to nervous and whisper the whole thing! It’s a beautiful reading and I think it would be adorable if she read it, but I’m worried it will be lost in translation coming from a nervous child! I could tell he was upset when I voiced my concerns. Especially bc I’ve been giving him a hard time over not being involved, having any opinions, ect. What do I do?! Just let her doing the reading and hope it goes ok? Override him and pick someone else? Help!
Post # 3
@Weetzie: Let her do it. It would be so important to him and to her.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Have her practice a lot before hand. Listen to her while she does it, and make sure to remind her to be loud. I think it would be very sweet to have her do a reading. It’ll make her feel special.
Oh, and print it in your programs! 🙂 So the guests know what she’s saying.
Post # 5
@Weetzie: aw so precious! let her do it of course
Post # 6
If it were my child, I’d have been upset too if my FI voiced opposition to something like this. Family is more important than a perfect reading. Yes, you smile and enthusiastically include this little girl.
Post # 7
Let her do it. It’s important to him and it will be important to her. Overriding his request just because you’re worried it won’t be perfect isn’t the right thing to do.
Have her practice. Don’t coach her, don’t tell her how to do it, but just tell her she needs to be loud enough for a lot of people to hear.
I also second printing it out so people know what she’s saying just in case she is quiet.
Post # 8
@missmorganista: seconded. practice and print it! if you don’t have room IN your programs (like we don’t), print the readings on another piece of card stock for your guests. 🙂
Post # 9
I think it’s so cute. I agree with PP, have her read it alot, you know kids memorize books if you read to them enough. I’d also print it out for the guests to read along. Maybe have someone stand next to her so she’s not too nervous? Someone she’s comfortable with.
Post # 10
People will think it’s so sweet, even if they can’t hear her. Maybe have someone older, even your FI standing with her so she is not so nervous standing there by herself. If she does start to whisper, he could let her know to speak up or to read along with her, she will probably then try to be loud so everyone hear’s her voice over her fathers and will forget that she was ever nervous!
Post # 11
I think it would be adorable. Just have him practice a lot with her.
Post # 12
@Weetzie: Oh dear. I hate this type of crap. A wedding is about the two individuals above all. Not their offspring. Why not have her do the reading and videotape is so you can play it the day of the wedding? That way she gets as many tries as she needs to get it right and she can watch and enjoy it with the audience rather than have to do it live? Nobody wants to watch a 7 year old have a wedding day meltdown and deliver a crappy reading. Awkward!
Post # 13
That’s so cute! Let her do it!
Post # 14
I think she should be capable of doing it, and I wouldn’t worry too much about nerves, especially since it’s only 50 people. I have my grade two class get up and speak in front of the whole school and parents at assemblies, and no body really gets nervous because we’ve practiced so much.
She’ll be fine. And if she isn’t, oh well. Like PPs already said, people will understand, and printing the words in the program is a great idea if you’re that worried.
Post # 15
@Weetzie: Just let it go. If it doesn’t go well then in the end, does it REALLY matter? If she freaks out then maybe her daddy can stand there with her and they can read it together.
Weddings aren’t about being perfect… especially when kids are involved. I think this would mean a lot to your FI.
Post # 16
@bunnyharriet: I’d rather have an adorable 7 year old fumble through a reading than listen to boring adults stumble through speeches/readings lol (it happens).
I think that since he has 3 kids, the wedding should be more about joining the FAMILY than having a perfect, flawless ceremony.