(Closed) FI wants me to surprise him with his wedding band?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I pick out FI's wedding ring?
    Yes, because that will mean a lot to him. Suck it up and make a decision. : (17 votes)
    55 %
    No way, it would be too easy to disappoint him and puts too much pressure on you. : (0 votes)
    Find a sneaky way to get a better idea of what he likes/dislikes and then buy accordingly. : (14 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I would handle it like e-ring shopping- find out styles and widths that he likes, narrow it down to a few, then choose one.  You may want to have him there for one trip just to see how the rings look on him, but not tell him which ones you are really thinking of choosing. 

    Post # 4
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My Fiance said the same thing, but I’ve been showing him different rings online to make it easier for to see what he likes. He says he trusts my taste and he’s a pretty simple guy so I don’t think it will be very hard..

    Post # 5
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Most guys are happy with any ring. You could try to ask him for a few hints (width of band, color, plain vs. decorated)

    Post # 6
    1032 posts
    Bumble bee

    HA holy role-reversal! I would first of all ask straight out for his size, you dont want it to not go on his finger the big day! then ask hinty questions like color and width. Don’t worry too much, guys are usually very simple, and clearly he has faith in you! I’m sure you’ll knock his socks off! 

    Post # 7
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My Fiance was the same way.  He wanted me to choose my own ring because he knows I’m kinda particular and he wanted me to be completely happy with it.  I asked him to go look at styles that he would like for his band and he was not even one bit interested.  He said he would like anything, that he had no opinion.

    There was one incident when we were at the mall and I was trying to hint that we should look at bands and finally as we were walking past a jewelry store, I got a little frustrated and asked him, “why can’t you just humor me for once?” and sort of stormed off.

    Eventually I just looked at styles online and found about 10 that I liked and showed them to him in a super casual manner and tried to gauge his reaction.  He kept resisting until I showed him a few that were a little different and then he actually started to participate and have an idea about what he would like.

    Post # 8
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d try to get him to go looking with you once (although not actually have him pick out his ring).  My Fiance thought he knew exactly what he wanted and that ring shopping for him would be soooo easy.  Well when we actually went to try on rings, what he thought he liked, he no longer liked when it was on his finger.  The width and style he wanted completed changed!

    Your Fiance may find the same thing so if he goes with you once, both you and he will know for sure the style/width/color/etc he truely likes and then you can go back another time on your own to choose the actual ring.  Then it is still a surprise to him but you’ll both be confident that it is what he wants and likes.

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