- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
My fiancee and I have been together for 2 years now, and we’ve had a pretty good relationship. We waited until we had been together almost 3 months before we had sex, and well, it was great.
FI are Christians, as in, we believe in God but obivously we aren’t living the way the Bible says we should. Well, he decided that he feels guilty about having sex, and he’s said he wants to abstain from it until we’re married. I would have no problem with this if we were getting married in 3 months, or 6 months, but we haven’t officially set a date yet. We know that it will be sometime in 2012, but that’s it.
There wasn’t any kind of discussion about it, just, the Bible says it’s wrong, I feel bad, so now we’re not going to do it anymore. Just up and quit. Going from 4 times a week, sometimes more to absolutely nothing in 24 hours.
I don’t know how to bring this up without sounding horrible, but I don’t like the fact that he really didn’t discuss it with me first. I have nothing against his reasoning. I don’t want it to sound like that, but ya know, we’re in a relationship together, let’s talk about things like this.
It seems so petty when I talk about it…
And I don’t want anyone to think that our relationship is based on sex, because it’s not, but let’s face it, sex is nice, sometimes it’s absolutely mind blowing. Why would I want to give it up completely?
I don’t know how to handle this situation, and I’ve heard about the boards from several of my friends, so I figured I would try bringing it up here, because I have no idea what to do.
I may have posted this in the wrong category though, so I apologize in advance : ) I’m new to the site and everything.