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personally, i'd rather option 4 coming from the wedding parties view. i'm currently preparing to be in a friend's wedding, and oh lord is it expensive. i'm sure she'll give us a gift, i'm sure it'll be very nice, but i'd much rather just have my money back from all of this crap i have to buy. i don't think you need to buy the bridesmaid's dresses just because you're buying the suits, they're two seperate things. but, i also don't think you should blow your budget just to help your friends out. if you can afford it, do it. if you can't, you can't, and i would do 2 or 3.
We bought suits from Moore's buy one get one free which worked out really well, and then asked the groomsmen to cover half the cost of the suit. We bought shirts(french cuff) and ties online dirt cheep, and then bought cufflinks for the guys online as their gift (.99 ebay deal :) and had them engraved! All and all we spent about $125-150 per groomsmen gift included, and about the same as I bought bridesmaids dresses off the rack, bought them kickass shoes and pearl necklaces/earings as gifts. The wedding party has so many expenses that it is awesome to chip in what you can and we had a very happy wedding party. I was frustrated that we spent more on the groomsmen, but allowing them to wear their own shoes and belts was a huge money saver. Watch out for sales, the two for one was a big savings for us and it allowed us to help out where we could. Online shopping for shirts/ties is also a huge savings. Good luck!
You definitely don't HAVE to buy their suits or anything...although it is a really great gesture. I think it would really depend on what your GMs can afford...the way I look at it, we ask our BMs to spend 150-200 on a dress but it's taboo to ask GMs to spend the same? That just doesn't seem right.
I like the idea of asking them to buy their suits (or wear one they already have if they all have simple black suits and that's what you're doing) and gifting them their shirts and ties. If these guys don't have suits already, it's something worth investing in, and your wedding is the perfect occasion as far as I'm concerned.
Our wedding party on both sides is buying their main attire, but we're gifting them accessories (FH is buying his guys shirts, ties, and cufflinks; I'm buying my ladies cardigans and ballet flats they can change into at the reception if they so choose). I understand the idea of helping out, but I've never been to a wedding where the bride & groom have paid outright for their WP's attire. I know it has been done (as evidenced by pugsandkisses and others), and that's a really generous gesture if you can swing it. If you can't, expecting them to pay for their attire if they accepted the invite to be in your wedding party is par for the course.
I don't think you have to. Part of accepting the offer to be a BM/GM is the cost that comes with it (at least where I'm from). I would talk to your GMs and see what they think. Has your FI been in other weddings besides the one where the couple paid for the tux rental? I feel like that's a nice thing to do, but absolutely not necessary on the part of the bride and groom.
I like option #2. I think they would appreciate not having to pay for so much for their suits, but at least a small gift is required in addition to that to thank them for being friends and groomsmen.
Why would you buy the suit but then rent the shirt and shoes? What are they going to do in the future with a suit that they don't have shoes for? I think if you're going to buy the suit it makes sense to buy everything.
To cut down on costs can they wear their own shoes and shirts? If they already have a suit can they wear that instead? I think there are some other cost saving options out there.
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Hi girls! I know a lot of you (like me) want your groomsmen to wear suits instead of tuxes, and as we all know it's impossible to rent a suit. So Men's Warehouse is having a sale right now and I was thinking we should talk to the GMs about buying their suits, but when I mentioned this to Fi he started to have a major stress fest. Last year he was in his brother's wedding and the couple paid for everyone's tux rental and gave them a small gift. I think it ended up costing them around 150 each. I think it just makes more sense to buy a suit for 200 dollars (that you will have for years to come) than to pay 120 for a rental (especially because it's a 20 dollar per day late fee). So I came up with these options...
What do you guys think? Are there any options I am not thinking of? Do you think these guys would rather not have to pay for their suit, but not get a gift in the end? I just think if it were me, I will have forgotten about them splitting the suit when the wedding actually arrives!
Also, if you pay for the GMs suits, don't you need to pay for the BMs dresses? This whole thing is just madness.