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Fi really, really wants to wear his suit, which to be fair IS a great suit that doesn't get enough use, for our e-photos, and wants me to wear a cocktail dress.  I think this sounds nuts.  I want him to wear a nice pair of khaki dresy casual pants and button-down while I wear a new  floral silk charmeuse halter sundress I bought recently and haven't yet worn (mainly because I want to get some use out of it and regret buying it full price a little...erm...)  But I don't like the idea of formal e-pics!  We look awkward enough when we try to pose for pics.  Formal attire, I think, would just make it less natural and feel more stuffy.

To make it worse, I feel like our location choices are backwards.  I REALLY want our photos in Fort Tyron Park/the Cloisters and he wants them in the Brooklyn Botanical Garden.  He wants to wear a suit in a garden and I want to wear a sundress amidst Medieval architecture.  We are at a total impasse. Anyone have any suggestions for us?  I just feel stuck.

Well, we found a photog who is doing this for free (found through the bee classifieds and am AMAZED at the quality, what a deal), which is great because we're broke students.  In any event, the Cloisters and the Brooklyn Botanical Garden are a million miles from each other.  Maybe the photog will let us change and take some more nature-y shots and some more formal shots in the Fort Tyron park area?  I don't know.

I'm thinking we'll probably do another e-shoot in about a year, when we find the photographer who will shoot on our wedding day.  So maybe we can do the more formal ones then, with him or her?  I just want some cute, accessible photos of us right now!  I'd just have to convince FI of the sensibility of this.

Thanks for all your responses guys.  I think they're all great, but I just got off the phone with FI, and he totally shot it all down.

He says he doesn't want to have to change his outfit ("But everyone does it, sweetie!"), especially not in a place like a public restroom.  Additionally, we're having the photos done the morning of his birthday party and he was pissed enough about the timing, thinking it'd eat the whole day or something.  It take 1.5 hrs to get to the Cloisters from his home, but 15 mins to get to the Botanical Gardens, so he insisted we not spend all that time in transit on his birthday celebration day. The jury is still out on whether we'll be in cocktail attire, but he sure put his foot down in our most recent conversation about the location and outfit changes. 

I, however, insisted that I get to dictate the location AND formality of our attire for our next shoot with our wedding photographer, and he agreed.  So he can suck it up then.  

Ever since FI finished his honors exams--this brutal process that some seniors elect to go through at my college--he has been so vocal about his preferences on EVERYTHING, and we agree on NOTHING as far as style of decor in both home and wedding goes.  Before the exams ended, he was too stuck in his books to give a damn.  Now we are clashing like mad over aesthetic preferences. ARGH.