Post # 1
A few months ago, my FI and I went shopping for our wedding rings. We picked them out and put them on layaway and have been paying on them every month. His is already paid for. The other day, he found a yellow gold claddagh ring that his mom gave to him many moons ago (before we were together). He just asked if I minded if he wore the claddagh from his mother instead of the wedding ring HE picked out and I paid for. He said he thought it would be cool with me because his mom gave him the diamond for my engagement ring, but I told him he still got a new band for it, had it reset, and warrantied by himself, so it’s a little different. I guess I am just not comfortable with my husband wearing a ring A: that his mother bought for him B: that she bought for him when he was with his ex and he wore then and C: that we had agreed on what our rings would look like and that they match. My rings are white gold. and D: I love claddaghs and wear a white gold one on my right hand all the time, but this one is just big and gaudy and ugly. Should he just wear whatever ring he wants or is this just a little weird????
Post # 3
I think he should wear the ring you and he picked out and paid for for his wedding ring. If he wants to wear the other one, he can wear it on his right hand. But this is someting between the two of you that you both have to be comfortable with.
Post # 4
God no. The Claddagh was not bought to be his wedding ring. No and no. He has two hands, doesn’t he?!
Post # 5
I would NOT be okay with that. The ring from his mom symbolizes a bond with her and maybe with his heritage, but it has nothing to do with symbolizing his bond with and commitment to you. I think you need to put your foot down about this because frankly, it strikes me as a little weird. Good luck!
Post # 6
I agree, he can totally wear it on his right hand, so why does it have to be his wedding band. I know that claddagh rings ARE worn as wedding bands in some cultures, so I mean, if it is important to him, then maybe you can discuss it. But if he is only doing it to please his mother, then he should explain to her that you guys have picked up bands ages ago, and that he’d love to wear it on his other hand.
Post # 7
I would let him know that you two picked out your rings together and you’ve already paid for his and that it’s important that he wear that one. He can always wear the cladduah on his other hand.
Post # 8
I agree with the others. I wouldn’t be ok with that, he can wear it on his other hand if it’s so important to him (which it obviously isn’t, if it’s been in a drawer all this time!)
Post # 9
I’m glad I’m not the only one that thinks it’s not right. I was floored when he said that. He said if he really wanted to wear it, he would wear it on his right hand, but he still doesn’t see what is wrong with wanting to use it as a wedding ring. I don’t even think his mom cares. A few days ago, he was going to sell it…now he wants this. Ugh…men sometimes!
Thanks for the back up, girls. If he starts to get adamant about this, I’m showing him this thread. 🙂
Post # 10
I think he should wear both rings, on different fingers or hands. If he’s just realized he’d rather have a claddagh, maybe he should return the matching ring and get a new one of those for his wedding ring.