Post # 1
So my loving awesome FI dropped a ball on me last night. He wants to write our own vows. Not only that… He said he has been writing them since we got engaged! That was 2 years ago!!! He also said he has a few versions and he is trying to decide which one to use.
Cue me: ummmm… You did what? and you have how many?
Cue inner freak out.
So last night I typed up some vows. I have no idea how long they are supposed to be. All the wedding we have been to, the bride and groom use the traditional wedding vows.
Would you ladies mind looking over my Vows to see if it is long enough? Also – please share your own!!!
” (Name), when I first met you all those years ago, I could’ve never imagined that we would end up here, in this moment. Throughout the years we have had our good times, our bad times and the mountains we defeated together. Each time we have come through stronger than ever and I am so lucky to now call you my husband. You are my rock. You balance me, you challenge me, and you encourage me. You are my strength and comfort when I need it most, and you believe in me even when I find it hard to believe in myself and I am so lucky to have you in my life.
Today and for every day of the rest of our lives, I promise to love you and cherish you. I promise to treat you with respect and cherish every moment we spend together. I promise not to get mad when you have to work on the weekends or at night. I promise to support you, guide you and be the best wife that I can. I promise to share our achievements and successes in our lives.
As we look into the future, I promise that whatever we may go through, we will go through together, and I will be at your side.”
Thank you ladies!
Post # 3
@HisBrownEyedGirl: I think they are very sweet! I know a lot of people who write their own vows share them with each other beforehand, so they “match”.. ie, one isn’t longer/sweeter/lighter than the others. If you guys want it to be a surprise, maybe you can have a mutual friend read both and see if they are complimentary?
Post # 4
That is a great idea.. Thank you!
Post # 5
@HisBrownEyedGirl: I think they’re very sweet! I agree with PP but would add to also agree on a word count range so that one isn’t so much longer than the others.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@HisBrownEyedGirl: We did ours and I was super intimidated because my husband is a writer. We agreed on ground rules to level the playing field though. The vows could not be any longer than one page with 12 point Times Roman font and regular spacing. I themed mine around being “partners against the world”, something we say to each other when discussing our relationship. He went super personal and referenced things we did together, some the audience could understand but others were just for us to know. I like yours, just add a bit more to it that is personal to you both.
Here are mine:
I take you as my husband and in making my commitment to you, I promise to work harder when times are tough and smarter when times are good. I may not know everything our future holds but I know together as partners we can take on whatever comes our way. We are never lonely and never afraid when we’re together.
A great spouse loves you exactly as you are. An extraordinary spouse inspires you to be your very best. You have helped make me a better person today and you challenge me to be an even better person tomorrow. You give me the courage, strength, and support to seek the best in myself and give that back to the world.
I will laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sorrow. I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with hope and encouragement.
As a family, we will create a home filled with learning, laughter, and compassion. I promise to respect you and cherish you as an individual, a partner, and an equal, knowing that we do not complete, but complement each other. Together we will build a life far better than either of us could imagine alone.
I accept you as you are, and I offer myself in return. I promise to always be your biggest fan and your partner against the world.
Post # 7
@HisBrownEyedGirl: Those are really cute!
We also wrote our own vows but didn’t want each other to see them before. Our officiant read them both and let us know that they were about the same length. Is that an option for you if you don’t want to read them?
Also, you have plenty of time if your wedding is in August! Ideas would come to me usually while I was driving so I would make voice notes and just write them down when I got home. I was still editing them 2 weeks before the wedding.
Writing our own vows was so special, lots of tears were shed and it was beautiful! I think you’ll be happy your fiance has made this request!
Post # 8
It all sounds good although maybe omit the comment about weekends?
Post # 9
Thank you ladies so much. These vows I wrote were really quick. I guess I was just looking for some thoughts on if I was going in the right direction