FI watching porn, lying about it.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

When did he lie about it?

If you’re fine with him looking at it in theory but it makes you feel bad it sounds like this isn’t really about your FI. Personally porn doesn’t bother me because I don’t consider those actresses real people who are relevent to my life. I don’t compare myself to them any more than I compare myself with Madonna. She poses no threat to me or my relationship. 

If you’re feeling down on yourself have you thought about talking to a counselor? 

Post # 4
Member
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t have a problem with porn because, to me, it isn’t really a reality. I don’t feel insecure vs some porno chick. How did he lie about it though?

Post # 6
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Susana888:  If you’re not comfortable with your FI watching porn that’s fine. However, you need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel.

Post # 9
Member
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

You shouldn’t feel bad about it.  Porn stars are made to look “Ultra sexy” with Make-Up.     These women just see doing porn as a job and not for the sex part.   Men just see it as fantasy but do know the fine line to reality.   

My SO watched porn a lot and I also dabble in to watching porn on occasion (periods coming). 

I once asked an Adult shop owner if he would meet a famous porn star at a sexpo convention.   He said he didn’t want to as it would ruin the fantasy.  

 

 

Post # 11
Member
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

@Susana888:  You are welcome 🙂  I am glad it has cheered you up a bit :hugs:

Post # 12
Member
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

@Susana888:  Just thought I add one more. 

This is “Anastasia Blue” who is now deceased (died from medication).

  Porn star   At home.

Post # 15
Member
1907 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

I watch porn occasionally (maybe once a month, if that) and I’ve never thought to compare the men in the movie to my FI.. I’m too busy comparing my own boobs/butt to the woman’s haha! But from what I hear men don’t think like ‘she is hotter than my girl’, it’s just sex.

 

Anyway I think you need to talk to your FI about how you feel.

Post # 16
Member
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Susana888:  I hate that you’re feeling bad but hopefully I can add some insight to make you feel better. I’d post a pic to support this but due to what I’m about to say I’d rather not. I worked as a “cam girl” a couple years ago. It’s like live porn done over your webcam. Girl lemme tell ya, there is NOTHING real about porn/camming. For the girls, it’s all about the money. I’d consider myself average-to-pretty but when I’d be on cam I’d be an absolute bombshell–and it took TWO HOURS of hair and makeup to get me to look that way. In person I looked like a freak (SO MUCH MAKEUP!!) but on cam it looked gorgeous. My body is by no means perfect (I’ve had four kids including a set of twins) but you can move and position yourself at flattering angles that make you look great (trust me, I perfected this! LOL). DO NOT let this stuff get you down, it’s so fake. As corny as it sounds true beauty comes from within. You sound like a sweetheart and I’m sure you’re #1 in your FI’s book! ((hugs))

 

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