- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I feel even guilty for writing this because he’s such a sweet, amazing man. I love him so much, and he’s changed my life in so many wonderful ways. I can’t wait to marry to him. I just wanted to clarify that before people jump down my throat saying I’m shallow, or that I shouldn’t marry him, or some other nonsense.
When we first met we always talked about the importance of keeping the passion alive and taking care of yourself well into the relationship, after the honeymoon phase is over, and the comfortable stage happens. We’ve been together 4 years. For the past two years that seems to have gone out the window.
When I met him he was always active. He was never the type you’d call a couch potato. He liked to go out dancing, to the beach, and was very social. He’s about 5’11” and used to weigh around 155. He was a bit muscular/lean. I would say he also had a high sex drive. We used to have sex at least 5 times a week. In fact, it was always me who couldn’t keep up.
Now, he hates going out. I’m not just talking socially, but he hates going out to do anything. He loves staying at home and eating. We have sex once a week. Sometimes once every two weeks. Because of his weight gain, he’s more lethargic and doesn’t have a lot of motivation to do things. He now weighs close to 205 lbs.
It’s a turn-off for me. I workout, watch my eating habits, and take care of myself. I also love to go hiking. It’s just unattractive when you want to go out and live life, but the man you’re in love with wants to stay home, eat, and play video games.
I try to cook healthy meals, cut down on portion sizes, but he eats junk at work. He’ll go to the store on the way home from work and buy tons of soda, chips, ice cream, etc. despite me asking him not to.
I finally got him to go on hikes with me, but he says he only does it because he’s scared I’ll leave him because he knows he’s changed and doesn’t like going out.
I try to get him to go to the gym with me. He will get dressed, but then when we get there he’ll stay in the car…for an hour! He’ll either sleep or bring his laptop to play video games.
I don’t know what to do because I want my man back! I want the guy who was so enthusiastic about life and living it. The guy who couldn’t get enough of me in bed. The man I couldn’t keep my hands off because I was so attracted to him.
I love him to death, guys, I really do. I want to grow old with him and I don’t want to be with anyone else.
His weight has only been increasing over time. Literally, after I make dinner (or any meal) he will get up and make himself a sandwich, or grab a bag of chips.
What do I do???