FI will be having a stripper loaded bachelor party… and I'm okay with that!

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Good for you!! Hope he has a great time 🙂 I imagine my FI will probably do something like that …

Post # 3
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

nessdawwg:  I would be worried if a night of strippers classed as the second best night of DH’s life but meh. Each to their own.  

Post # 4
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

MsChandler:  +1.

My DH went to a strip joint for his bucks show but it’s more for the friends benefit rather than the groom most of the time anyway as you say. Being the centre of attention and/or humiliated is not his idea of a good time. My stripper attitude – looking I accept, physical contact not fine. DH feels the same.


Post # 5
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Cool story.

Post # 6
1214 posts
Bumble bee

If a stripper is all it takes to make them stray, then they weren’t too attached to begin with.

Post # 7
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

nessdawwg:  I agree with you. My husband worked out of town for 6 months before the wedding, and only made it up twice in that time, and I encouraged him to arrange something in terms of a bachelor party. I suggested even just grabbing the guys for dinner and heading to a strip club, just to have a bachelor party at all. It’s not a big deal to me, really. Well, the boys surprised him two nights before the wedding, and they took him out for dinner, and a strip club crawl. I was so happy that he got his bachelor party before the wedding! I just wish someone had let me know, so I could have brought in someone else to help me with the last minute stuff we planned to do! But it was worth it, to see what a good time he had with the boys!


Like you said, you trust him completely and you know how he’ll handle himself in that situation. Let the boys have a little fun.

Post # 9
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m the exact same way. Whatever he wants is fine.  I trust him.  If I didn’t, I wouldn’t marry him.

Post # 10
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

I feel like I’m somewhere in the middle ground. I want my FI to have a good time, but I wouldn’t ENCOURAGE him to get strippers or go to a strip club. But if he did then whatever. 

He wouldn’t go on his own accord anyway. I’m in the same boat as others who have posted, my FI hates being the center of attention, and his buddies paying for lap dances or whatever would embarrass him…it certainly wouldn’t make the best night of his life that’s for sure.

Post # 12
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Your fiance is super lucky to have you, and you’re right it is completely negative and controlling of some ladies to have open communication with their partners in which they establish boundries based on their personal levels of comfort.

I agree, every guy who been with their partner and managed not to cheat deserves a lap dance. Lap dances all round!


Post # 14
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I too agree let him have It. But I say what’s good for the goose is good for the gander ! Lol since I really know what goes on at some of these parties….I do have to set some boundaries because sorry lap dances are not what only goes on. I trust my fiancé but and its a little but……his friends will do there best to get him embarrassed or in a compromising position. I’ve been told so. And I was like okAy? But the key is open communication and discuss what’s unacceptable because you don’t know after drinking and pressure what can happen for fun sake. I am just saying. I’ve seen it with my own two eyes! Lol

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