FI won't stop posting play by play to FB

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@SnowBunny420:  My FI sends mass texts to his friends about planning, however thankfully, most of them are actually invited. I’ve actually found myself biting my tongue on FB with wedding planning as I have read nightmare stories on the Bee where Bees would overshare wedding info, and random people thought they were invited OR would give annoying unsolicited advice… I think it’s best to limit FB use before the wedding – maybe suggest that to your FI? It’s cute that he’s excited though!

Post # 4
1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Not over excited, but out of nowhere two weeks ago he decided he wanted centerpieces.  HUH?  We decided ages ago that because our venue has candles that we’ll just go with them, but then he was worried about the tables looking bare so I had to go around to florists and arrange for center pieces.  Crazy!

Post # 5
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@SnowBunny420:  As a side issue, I would get separate facebooks. It’s really frustrating when you see a post and you don’t know which person it’s coming from – if I reply, am I replying to my old school friend, or her husband who I’ve never met?

Also that way he can make a fool of himself on facebook and it’s not your problem 🙂

Post # 6
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@SnowBunny420:  Awe let him be that sound soooooo awesome 


my groom is so mellow … he goes what ever will make you happy … if it is what you want i will love it … he so chill lol i am gitty lol … i wanna fb but i am being mellow still TILL WE SET THE DATE … i want a photo shoot and save the dates and yay but ya lol … anyways its great he is so in it 

Post # 8
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Whenever I wanted to post something on FB about wedding plannin I would just text my BFF instead. I really didn’t want advice or peiole thinking they were invited when they were not.

As for couple’s FB…ywah tha irks me sometimes. At least put an initial or something after your post so you know who is posting. My mom and her DH do that or they will say “mom here….lalala”.

To answer your original question no, my DH was not over excited to that degree.

Post # 9
97 posts
Worker bee

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Post # 10
4042 posts
Honey bee

Yeah, I think it’s awkward and kind of showy to advertise too much wedding stuff on Facebook to people who aren’t invited. Then it opens the door to people wondering why they weren’t invited.

As another PP mentioned, getting separate accounts could solve part of the problem. Then he can go crazy with posts and you are somewhat removed from the backlash.

@feufighter:  I agree, I find them a little odd as well. Even people in a relationship are individuals….so why not do separate accounts? If you want to show you are connected then use the relationship status feature.

Post # 11
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@paula1248:@feufighter:   +100, I think it’s soo weird when people share a facebook (or an email! so wtf!)  It’s not like you have to pay for it, just make your own darn page.  

Post # 13
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

FI and I were just talking about oversharing about wedding planning on FB today. Not from us, but my cousin is getting married next year, and my aunt is constantly posting on FB about her wedding. Today she was posting about having the venue booked, the date and time of the wedding, and all these details about how she was going to hem my cousin’s dress for her. Someone commented and asked if the family was invited (I guess he’s from my aunt’s family), and she was like “yes everyone’s invited, hope they can come!” Well, we have a big family, I’m pretty sure my aunt has a big family (super extended with step siblings and such), and just today my cousin was telling me they are keeping their guest list to 75 because she and her FI are paying. I was like WTF aunt…why are you airing all of this on FB, and promsing invites to people? Ugh. I’d be so mad if my mom did that!

Post # 14
1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You should let him know that it’s rude to be posting about an event he doesn’t plan on inviting his whole friends list too. Let him know he is hurting peoples feelings and making you both look bad. 

Post # 15
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

he didnt about the wedding, but my DH wants to overshare about my pregnancy. I have tried to tell him that just because we have a monthly ultrasound it doesnt mean that his friends are interested in it (i mean lets be honest, people will feign interest for the first one but they arent particularly invested in it)

maybe you can get him to make a special friends list of people invited, and some statuses can be posted so only they see it (i think?). so he can indulge in his desire to share and it wont get awkward?

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