Post # 1
Okay, I know chair covers are probably very unimportant compared to everything else and stupid to fight about but I need to vent alil so heres the story Me and my fiance got engaged in June and everyone kept asking about the date right away. My fiance said next year but due to fiances we are putting it off till 2014.So he wants to get married but I’m the one that does all the planing but thats okay with me because in my opinon the wedding itself is alil more of a girls thing but i know its his wedding too and he should have a say and the whole time we have been planning I have asked his opinon on everything and he just has this yeah whatever atitude about it like he could care less. He said the details don’t really matter to him he just wants us to look amazing and the food to be good. And of course the marriage itself is the most important. Well Ive had most of the major things figured it and kept him updated made sure he agreed to it and he did I had my vision for the whole wedding and when I tell him where we can rent chair covers he flips out out and says they are horrible he hates them there is no way in hell we are using chair covers given that before this he knew I wanted chair covers and was fully aware I was looking at prices for renting them and he never said a word then long story short are wedding colors are white and lavender my vison was for the centerpieces to be white and lavender roses, the table covers white, chair covers white with lavender sashes and lavender napkins which really brings the room together in our colors and without them there isn’t alot of white and lavender and the chairs themselves are brown which I think stand out and look tacky with everything else being white and lavender and theres alot less white and lavender without them and I want it all to flow I guess the main reason it makes me so angry that he dosen’t want them is because i planned everything completely by my frigging self and he was fine with all my plans until now and hes flipping out over it and just wont stand for chair covers really? after everyhting else which is alot more important this is the thing you put your foot down about? Oh and he says since he didnt plan any of the rest of it I should atleast give me this but WHAT I tried and tried to get him to help pick out stuff and this is what he picks to have say in out of everything really? I guess it wasnt such a short story after lol sorry
Post # 3
It’s cool…tell him when people ask why the room looks like shit, he can tell them how he put on his daddy-pants and laid down the law over…chair covers, they’ll be SUPER impressed!
Post # 4
I understand why you are upset, especially because you’ve done all the planning by yourself, and it seems like he’s stepping in on this one thing, just to “ruin” your overall vision. Having said that, if this is the one thing he feels strongly about, maybe you should let him have his way. How bad are the chairs? Can you do the sash but not the chair cover?
I’m also anti-chair cover (unless the chairs are really terrible), so I sort of get where he’s coming from. But I see your point of view, too.
Post # 5
@BookGirrl: The chairs aren’t too bad but they are brown which dosen’t really match the rest of the room and I don’t think a brown chair with a lavender sash would look too attractive either
Post # 6
Could you maybe rent some white wooden garden chairs? Both my husband and I are incredibly anti-chair cover so I’m kinda on your FI’s side. :p Our venue’s chairs weren’t the prettiest, so we rented garden chairs – which actually ended up being cheaper than chair covers and sashes. Something like this:
Post # 7
Everyone has the “thing” they must have (or not have) I guess his is chair covers?! I personally don’t like them either – maybe you guys could come up with a compromise though? You could get chivari chairs and put a panel or bow on the back of them? I’m not sure what your budget is, but chivari chairs can be rented for pretty cheap – not much more than chair covers.
Post # 8
@Nona99: You made me laugh but so true!
I know the wedding is not just yours its the both. But while I planned my DH said no to a lot of things and i knew it would fall perfect so I did it anyways and he didnt know until wedding day and it was like wow it looks good. But thats on you. I would go for it if it doesnt match.
Post # 9
Has he seen pics of what spaces look like with and without chair covers? My FI and me had this very same fight, we compromised that if it’s in the budget we will do chair covers, but if not we won’t.
Also have you seen the trend of just using organza or tulle sashes on the chairs and skipping the covers themselves. It’s much more elegant.
Post # 10
The room comes with chairs so im sure renting different chairs would be out of the question because he wouldn’t want to pay for new chairs if he sees nothing wrong with the ones we already have but thanks for the suggestion. He has seen what it looks like with and without chair covers and he said the covers make them look like white boxes instead of chairs and he can’t stand it.