Post # 1
Ok so let me preface this by saying I love him and I am not perfect either.
My FI has been not nice lately. He doesn’t want to talk about wedding stuff, pretty much at all. He points out everything I do negatively. I feel like he is picking me apart and breaking me down lately.
Me and my mom are invited to a wedding next weekend. He was not invited, as this is a friend of my sister’s and the only reason I am is because she is a bridemaid. He was mad because “i didnt invite him” i had no control of this and I didn’t want to be rude to the bride who i dont know very well. I was actually going to call her and just stright up ask and he was like “forget it if you wanted me to come you would have asked already.”
My texting isn’t working. He went on a schpeal about how i text everyone else back right away. I asked him from the bottom of my heart I need love, compassion, understanding and support from him (via email we are working) He replied by saying “Ok B..just include me in stuff and try to text me back as you would others.”
I dont consider that to be anything that I asked for – just more complaining about me. Please help! is this normal? It never used to be this way.
Post # 3
If you want to talk to him about your relationship you need to do it in person, not via email. I would pick a time when you are relaxing together and things are calm (aka don’t bring this up while you’re in a fight). Calmly explain to him how you are feeling. Let him know you need more support from him and you need to feel like he’s on your side. Give him a chance to give you his feelings on the relationship. Really listen to him and try to see things from his side instead of just being defensive (and ask him to do the same). Things won’t get better until you have a rational discussion about it.
Post # 4
It sounds like something is bothering him and he’s not communicating well with you about what it is.
His behavior is a bit immature. I think a heart to heart talk is needed, in person, not over email. Words/feelings get so misunderstood over email and while you are distracted at work. You guys need to talk when you’re both 100% focused on each other.
You both need to be clear about your expectations (in regards to communication, texting). He needs to be reasonable when situations are out of your control- like the wedding invite, although it is unusual that someone would be invited without their FI.
Post # 5
I agree that we need to talk in person, and we have. I really feel like he has been taking everything i do or dont do the wrong way since we have gotten engaged.
Cold feet maybe?
Post # 6
Maybe he’s overwhelmed by wedding talk, try to have a nice evening with him without talking about wedding stuff. Ask him how he’s doing, don’t ask straight on if he’s mad sometimes that bothers them.