- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I recently got engaged, and I am excited to marry my Fiance. However, I am dissapointed in the ring he got me.
Over the last year I have dropped an enourmous amount of hints about the ring I wanted. It is a plain 18k yellow gold band, solitaire, 4 prong setting, diamond needs to sit as low as possible for comfort. I did not care much about the diamond size, truly a .5 diamond is enough for me. I do care about quality. I wanted a perfect looking diamond to the human eye, so no imperfections that can be seen with the eye, also good color, above H definitly. I also wanted an ideal cut, i think that is most important for a diamond.
So he proposed to me with a 14k yellow gold solitaire. diamond is over 1 carat, it is a beautiful stone, color D. But there is a very big inclusion on the side of the diamond. I am talking about little black dots inside the stone, I can see it with my eyes from about 6 inches away frm the ring. Also because of that imperfection, the top of the stone above that spot sparkles a lot less. it is is very noticeable because the rest of the diamond is flawless and sparkles like crazy.
Note to say, he proposed to me at night, and I was able to notice this imperfections and lack of sparkle in the car, on the drive home, in the night.
In addition to the stone having a very noticeable inclusion, he paid a lot of money for it. I think it is such a waste of money for such a poor quality of a stone.
The band is not 18k, which is ok, I can live with that. But the problem is the designer of this ring is JBR. and for some reason they put a very small stone on the inside of the band. I am not sure whether this will bother me when i wear the ring or not, but I told him specifically to get a plain band that is maintenance free and easy to wear.
I wear other rings on a daily basis. I have very few jewelry pieces but they have been selected very carefully and I wear them on a daily basis. I never take my jewlery off so Comfort, Durability, and Low Maintenance are my main priorities in jewelry. I am worried that stone on the inside of the band will bother me in time. It is bound to fall out, or rub against my finger. Also let’s not mention the buildup of soap and other residue that would gather there as it does on any ring if you wear it on a daily basis.
Bottom line, I love my Fiance, but I feel like he did not put much thought in the ring he got me. Even though I gave him explicit directions many times before.
I cannot keep the band because I just don’t think it is practical with an inside stone. Also I most defintily do not want the overly priced diamond of poor clarity.
I do not know how to tell him all of this. I already pointed out the flaw in the stone, and he feels very bad that he didn’t notice it. But honestly how could he not notice, it is a very clear black dot, surrounded by multiple black dots. You don’t even need a magnifying glass to see it.
He feels bad and told me we can just exchange the ring and pick what I want. But I am very traditional and I think that is the easy way out for a guy. I told him what I wanted, why can’t he just spend the time and make the effort to get it?
The ring is at the jewelr, they are trying to reset the diamond in such a way to cover the imperfection on the side. However even if that happens, it is a noticeably poor quality stone overpriced. Did I mention he put it in payments and now we will pay for it together.
I am at my breaking point where when the ring comes back, I want to return it and simply just not get one. I refuse to pick out my own ring, since the whole point is for him to make the effort to pick somehting out that I like.