Post # 1
So I don’t know what to do. My fiance father found out he is getting deployed this sept and wont be back until sept 2011 and he said if I dont change the date of my wedding he won’t be able to be there. Ive been stressed out about changing the date and Im very nervous about how the weather is gonna be at the end of Sept. The place Im having my wedding at still has sept 24 available and they said I can switch it no problem. I just don’t know if my future father in law is really trying to make it to his sons wedding or if hes really gonna make me change the date!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t expect him to be able to get back early from his deployment no matter what is going on. They require people to stay a certain amount of time and I think it’s tough if not impossible to come back early. I would change the date.
Post # 4
Please consider changing the date. Four weeks further out is not that bad, and I’m sure your wedding will be lovely. You’d be making your fiance and future in-laws very happy, and this is a small change in the bigger picture.
Post # 5
Umm – if Future Father-In-Law is in the military he has ZERO control over his deployment date or when he returns from deployment. I think you should switch your date so he can make it.
Post # 6
A date is just a date. It would be worse not have your Fiance dad there. Deployments never can be counted on. Don’t stress about it. Its about being married and not how the weather will be. Everything will be beautifull!!!
Post # 7
Please consider changing the date, if your venue has no problem with it you shouldn’t either. Think about what your Future Father-In-Law is doing for you and our country, I say the least you can do is change the date of your wedding so he can attend. Don’t you and your Fiance want him there?
Post # 8
end if september in RI will still be beautiful. I LOVE september in our nj/ny/ct/ri area!! def change the date. you will regret it if you dont and its easier to do it now than later.
Post # 9
I’m planning on changing the date if I the photographer doesn’t have a wedding and if they church is available that day but i still waiting for them to call me back! I already gave the deposit for the photographer and you can’t get it back! So its not really just about the reception. My future father in law didn’t have to go..he wants to go because the money is good!
Post # 10
I don’t really know how your FFIL’s situation is, but I know from my friends and future BIL who are in the military that deployment dates can be very finicky. Even if they are telling him now that he’ll be back on a certain date in Sept 2011, it will almost certainly change before he actually comes back.
I would still change the date, but even so, just remember that dates with the military change without warning sometimes. 🙂
Post # 11
Oo i don’t think sept 24 is enough time. id’ go for August just to be safe. My friends got married and the best man was the groom’s brother and he got deployed WEDNESDAY before the Saturday wedding as one of those “early september” kind of things.
Er on the side of caution. He’s not manipulating you guys, the military is goofy