Fiance? Future Husband? Boyfriend?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

  • Do you use the term “fiance” Yes, all the time
  • How long did it take you (and him) to get used to using that word? The same day. We only dated 8 months, so I never got used to calling him boyfriend, I guess.
  • Is it improper to NOT use the word “fiance” I’ve never heard of that. I know people who just refer to their fiance/SO/husband/wife as “partner” now, even in heterosexual couples. To each his own.
  • Is it proper to subsitute “fiance” for “future husband”? It sounds really formal, but sure!
  • Is it looked down upon from older generations (such as parents, or grandparents) if we choose not to use the title “fiance”? My parents and grandparents use it, but I’m sure they wouldn’t look down on you for calling him whatever you want. Schnookums included.


Post # 4
5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@xkatexo67:  We never used the term. It just sounded pretentious and awkward to us. 

Post # 5
4540 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

Do you use the term “fiance”? Yes I do!

How long did it take you (and him) to get used to using that word? Same day. We called each other fiance/fiancee in private from time to time beforehand. 

Is it improper to NOT use the word “fiance”? To each his own, I guess. But I don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t want to use the “upgraded” word. 

Is it proper to subsitute “fiance” for “future husband”? I don’t see why not. It’s a little long, though. I use FH on here instead of FI. 

Is it looked down upon from older generations (such as parents, or grandparents) if we choose not to use the title “fiance”? I’ve never asked or thought about it. 


Post # 6
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

the word fiancé weirded me out in the beginning, so ill say significant other, but I mostly just use his name when talking about him.  Everyone else just calls him my FI. Just do whatever you feel most comfortable with! We are 8 months into our engagement now, and I’m finally starting to get used to saying fiancé! 

Post # 7
38 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I started using the word fiancé as soon as we got engaged. It felt very strange because we had been boyfriend/girlfriend for 6 years. I rarely used it, though. 

Now that we’re married, calling him my husband is just as odd. Guess I have to get used to that one, though. 

Post # 8
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We never really used those terms – we never even referred to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, it was always just “partner.” Fiance has always seemed kinda pretentious to me, and a little pointless, too, because the whole point of being a fiance/fiancee is that it’s a transitory phase (i.e. waiting to get married).

We never suffered any fallout from not calling each other “fiance” or “fiancee” – the older generation didn’t seem to care (how often do you refer to your SO by their ‘title’ instead of their name?). You can call him whatever you like – Honeypot Snugglebunch if that’s what works for you guys! It doesn’t change anything and no one really seems to mind too much.

Post # 10
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I really dislike the term fiance. Once formally engaged, he’ll continue to be called my boyfriend in some situations, and husband in others. We’ve been together for almost a decade, but that doesn’t really effect my dislike of saying “fiance” in real life. “FI” (fee in my head) on weddingbee is superior, but I hope I don’t acidentally use it in real life, lol.

Post # 13
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@xkatexo67:  NO i hate the term Fiance, it’s so pretentious. I just say partner, and i’ve got a rock on my finger if people want to put two and two together. One of the many reasons i can’t wait to be married in 11 weeks!!

Post # 14
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Missy_Star:  Oh and i didn’t mean i think it’s pretentious when other people say it – it just makes me feel pretentious when i say it! To each their own of course

Post # 15
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Haha interesting, I don’t find the term fiance pretentious at all.  I used it as soon as we got engaged… only took me like a week to get used to it.  I hate the term ‘partner’ for some reason, and I wanted a word that showed that the commitment level of our relationship was far more than just boyfriend/girlfriend.  FI calls me his “lady” to his friends, and will often refer to me as his wife.  He really doesn’t use the word fiancee.  Whatever 🙂  To each their own.

Post # 16
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

After 20 years married to his ex, and me only having been on the scene for a few years – my other half still refers to me as his new gf/mate/love/whatever comes out. Hes never referred to me as his fiance. To me hes my other half or on boards like this SO or LOTO (leader of the opposition lol)

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