Post # 1
i am usually for the natural makeup look (mostly because i am too busy to do anything else) but i believe a little makeup never hurt anyone! ***a quick background: i have grown up with makeup my entire life. my aunt is a makeup artist and was into the whole hollywood thing (i am from California but i now live in Europe). so i actually know how to properly apply makeup and keep my face acne free. i really never look like a clown.*** so here is my problem: i love wearing red lipstick. its hot, in style, and bold. i do not wear it all the time, but it really works well with some outfits and looks great on me! i am the kind of woman to do what i want, but i do not want to wear something my fiance absolutley hates! he told me “its absolutley revolting”. i have tried everything. he hates chapstick, lipstick, lipstain (i actually have not dared to try lip gloss with him haha) but i would like some help/ advice. what do your husbands/ fiances say about your makeup? should i stop wearing red lipstick alltogether? any advice for witty comebacks?
thanks so much
Post # 2
How can he hate chapstick? It’s usually colourless or do you mean the coloured ones? I wouldn’t stop unless he has a decent reason to hate it. And then I’d only limit it around him.
My FI isn’t a huge makeup fan but my acne was getting the best of me so I started wearing it after much research. I basically asked for his permission. I wear it for me, but was on the same page as you , didn’t want him to hate it. In the end he told me to do what makes me happy. Which is how I think your fiance should be.
Post # 3
I would punch him in the mouth, just sayin. I would never stop wearing red lipstick for a guy if it was something I really liked. Or anything else for that matter. Except perfume. I don’t wear perfume around my guy because he is INSANELY allergic and it makes him horribly ill. His mom is the same way. But that’s totally different than a guy just not liking the look of color on your mouth. And or him to say you look “revolting”. REALLY!? Why would he say something like that!?
Post # 4
Well if you’ve been together long enough that he’s your fiance, then obviously it’s not *that* revolting to him. If he hated it so much, why did he date you at all, let alone ask you to marry him? I wouldn’t change it. It obviously doesn’t bother him that much and if it really does, then why is he just saying it now? And what else is he going to ask you to change? If he was fine with it before, I don’t see why it would be a problem now, unless this is one of those situations where once you get married the other person becomes really controlling. Obviously that’s a big leap to make just from his comment about lipstick, but the timing of his statement is odd.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN
What does he hate about it? The color? Or the feel of it when he kisses you? DH won’t kiss me on the lips when I’m wearing lipstick. He’s worried that it will come off on his lips. But if you apply it the right way, it won’t. And I’ve told him that, but he still won’t kiss me on the lips while it’s on. Only the cheek or forhead, which I don’t mind.
Post # 6
caiteg: I’m assuming he doesn’t like the way it feels when he kisses you. I have a friend who’s husband is the same way. He also hates even chapstick. That said, she doesn’t give a crap and wears it anyways. Don’t stop wearing red lipstick just because he doesn’t like it. I mean, don’t start wearing it everyday just to spite him but we need to stay true to what we love and if you love makeup then you need to wear it.
My husband tells me I don’t “need” it and that I look beautiful without out but he appreciates the fact that I love makeup and he can appreciate when I get all dolled up. I would basically tell him to fuck off if he tried to tell me not to wear makeup and it was revolting.
Post # 7
caiteg: My husband HATES anything on my lips. He’s not a makeup fan in general but lipstick/gloss especially turns him off. My suggestion? Wear it whenever you don’t plan on smooching. He can’t say anything about you wearing it at work, while shopping, etc…
Post # 8
I don’t have any words of advise, just wanted to say that I’m in the same boat. I had my makeup done for our engagement pictures – red lips, neutral face, light fake eyelashes- I thought it looked amazing…He later told me that I had WAYYY too much makeup on and he did not want that for the wedding….WHAT..THE..HELL
I’m not really sure what to do either, but I love a red lip and I’m going to keep wearing mine 🙂 I’ll probably tone down my colors for the wedding though.
Post # 9
I know my SO didn’t like RED lipstick but I slowly worked my way into brighter colors. I don’t those colors too often either unless I’m going out. I started with nudes and worked my way up. He can’t even tell anymore.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Mine doesn’t like anything with color but it works out because the most I like is a tinted lip balm. I think he’s afraid to kiss me and it’ll turn his lips hot pink.
Post # 11
wlphilli: Guys tend to not realize that proper photo makeup is heavier than face to face makeup. Just explain that it needs to be heavier on the day in order for the pics to come out right. If he tries to argue just start with “I was talking to this model online and she said…” which is truth. Or say that the photographer said. Call your photographer and check if you like for back up to make that also truth.
Post # 12
MrsGolden2Bee: Photographer, Hair Stylist, Makeup Artist, Bridesmaids, Moms, ALLL of them have said the same. I’ve got to have a more dramatic eye than my normal everyday look. I’ve got to have a little color on my lips! Luckily, my aunt is doing my makeup and we are trying out different looks next weekend (I’m sure it will be a new future post), so I hope I can show them to him and gauge his reaction. Regardless, this girl is wearing fake eyelashes on her wedding day, period.
Post # 13
My boyfriend would prefer I just wore any make up period. I really don’t wear it a lot, even though I should. When I do wear it, he doesn’t mind what I wear. He figures if it makes me feel pretty, he can’t be against it. I don’t think he loves it when I kiss him wearing lip gloss, but he deals.
Post # 14
I apply chapstick about ten thousand times a day and the only comment I got was when I wore a really minty one — because he could taste it when we kissed and didn’t like it. But even then, he never told me that he hated it, he would just casually mention “Oh, you’re wearing that chapstick again? I can taste it.”
To be perfectly honest, and I know this isn’t helpful, but he has never told me he hates anything I wear. He tells me to do what makes me happy. Maybe just ask your SO if he wants you to be happy and if the answer is yes, it should stop him from being so rude in the future.
Post # 15
My husband doesn’t like unnatural lip colour either, although I still wear pinkish lip gloss. I don’t think they like kissing with it on, and cant blame them really! For my wedding I went a pretty natural looking lipstick, but it still had depth to it. You’ll need something long lasting as you don’t want to be reapplying it all day for the photos, and you wont want it being kissed off onto him either!!