Post # 1
My fiancé and I were at a wedding this weekend. We saw several of his old college buddies that we have not seen in years. It was great catching up until the girlfriends/wives of his friends started asking me about the bachelor party that my SO was planning. Apparently, my SO sent out a LARGE email to many of his old buddies inviting them to his a bachelor party in Vegas. ACKK!!!! Most of those friends that he sent that email to are not on the wedding invite list.
He does not see anything wrong with inviting old friends to the bachelor party but not to the wedding. I told him that is extremely rude, and we have to invite ALL of them to the wedding.
Is it completely rude to not invite his friends to the wedding that were invited to the bachelor party?? Is there any way to get out of this?
Post # 3
He shouldn’t do it, but guys aren’t always to etiquette conscious so I think he can get away with it. Plus a bachelor party isn’t a gift giving occasion (unlike a bridal shower), so its really not much different from him inviting these guys out to party.
Besides, if they’re his casual friends, then he can deal with the fallout (if any) of deciding to just invite them to the bachelor party.
Post # 4
Somehow Bachelor parties operate on different rules.
“Guys just wanna have fun” 🙂 and many would rather go to the bachelor party and not the wedding actually. For some reason this is not uncommon and not a breach of ettiquete the same way it is with women. Typically these guys have many fewer expectations regarding weddings
Post # 5
I agree. It is usually not done. But guys don’t care as much as PP said.
Post # 6
I usually follow the etiquette book really closely, but guys are different about this stuff. They just want to hang out with each other and have a good time. I would just let it go.
Post # 7
Super odd, but not worth an argument.
Post # 8
Thanks for the feedback. The whole situation makes me feel extremely awkward and rude. I wish I had had a conversation with him about the etiquette behind the whole situation before he sent out the email. At this point, I cannot do anything about it.
Post # 9
@eringuilford: Ya, you’re kind of stuck now so I would just try to let it go. Like PP said, I don’t think the guys will be too offended since they’re not as etiquette conscious.